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I still think about my ex. Is this a sign my life is empty and lonely?

  • 11-12-2016 10:41am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    We broke up 4 and a half years ago now, with the relationship having lasted 3 and a half years. I just don't see why else she still comes into my mind other than the fact my life is so pathetic, I've nothing else to think of.

    I really loved her, a feeling I have not felt since, despite having a girlfriend currently. Don't get me wrong--I enjoy spending time with my current girlfriend and we've done quite a lot of great things together but it just doesn't feel the same. And that's the problem. I'm constantly searching for that same feeling as "first love".

    There might be a bit of bias in my mind only remembering the good stuff. We tended to argue a lot and didn't have sex for a year at the end of the relationship. She also finished things by text message, which meant a lack of proper closure that hasn't been rectified as I got really annoyed at her way of ending it and we had a huge argument. In the 4 years since we've split up, we haven't spoken a word to each other, despite crossing paths numerous times (she works about 500 metres from my house).

    I'm wondering what this signifies about me as a person. Is my life empty and lacking in anything meaningful, hence always thinking about some past relationship that I'll never get back? I've done a lot of "things" since breaking up with her, including travelling the world and learning a musical instrument, but when she comes into my head, I feel like I haven't properly moved on.

    I'm not sure what else I'm meant to do to actually move on, though. There does tend to be a trigger for her coming into my mind. Often it's simply seeing her, but other times I'll scroll down my Facebook timeline to years ago and see messages we posted to each other and it all hits me again like a tonne of bricks.

    At this point in time, my social life really sucks because I've ventured into freelance work as a result of anxiety. Two years ago when I had people to go out with and had a weekly activity, I wasn't caught up on her as much, although I still remember coming into my head a bit.

    I'm just wondering what this all means. I can't carry on the rest of my life hung up on a relationship that ended long. I'm now 26 and worried I'll be writing the same message in another 4 years. Thanks for any words of support.


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  • #2
    earthchild8777
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 ✭earthchild8777


    Its not strange to think or dream of ur ex im 7yrs since my ex and am married now and still dream of him and think about him offten but the powers that be. everything happens for a reason maybe in the future ull be togther again or maybe ull move on. It all depends on urself.


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