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Would you think less of someone who was having regular one night stands?

  • 10-12-2016 3:43am
    #1
    guestb12345
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8 ✭


    I had my first one-night-stand in a long time tonight, I'm not long out of a long-term relationship. I couldn't get over the body confidence or openness of the girl who I was with. I'm over 40 and she told me she was 26. Would you think differently of someone if you knew they were having regular one night stands?


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  • #2
    Bret Hart
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,790 ✭✭✭Bret Hart


    No.


  • #3
    MistyCheese
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,006 ✭✭✭MistyCheese


    How would I know this about a person?


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    MistyCheese wrote: »
    How would I know this about a person?

    If it's a male friend, "cos he'll tell you...

    I don't think less of them, but any male friend who has a lot of one night stands, it sounds great when you're young, then as time passes and the bedposts nearly break from all the notches, you begin to think how vacuous and soulless. So maybe not so much as think less, more pity at inability to form a lasting relationship...


  • #5
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    No....it's their business....why would you care??


    **assuming they were single(even at that fcuk it sure)**


  • #6
    MistyCheese
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,006 ✭✭✭MistyCheese


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    If it's a male friend, "cos he'll tell you...

    I'm trying to picture this

    MF Aw yeah Misty, I have SO much casual sex with people I don't know very well. You wouldn't believe!
    MC Em, okay Tom. I'm not really sure if that has a lot to do with whether or not you're enjoying the latest series of Criminal Minds though...


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  • #7
    hatrickpatrick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,797 ✭✭✭✭hatrickpatrick


    Not in the least, fair play to them. The only sexuality I look down on is the sexual snob (IE, "my sex habits are better than your sex habits"), so in other words, anyone who answers yes to the OP ;)


  • #8
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    MistyCheese wrote: »
    I'm trying to picture this

    MF Aw yeah Misty, I have SO much casual sex with people I don't know very well. You wouldn't believe!
    MC Em, okay Tom. I'm not really sure if that has a lot to do with whether or not you're enjoying the latest series of Criminal Minds though...

    I'm with you on the Criminal Minds type conversation, but my friends who have regular one night stands just talk about it...a lot...so it's...

    MF, as we sit in a bar - "see that one over there, she squirts, like all over the place, and see that one in the corner...yeah I know she's married, but sure he's a clown...anyway, she's filthy..." And on and on and on. Backed up by the texts on the second phone, corroboration from female friends etc. etc.

    Fellows having one nights stands regularly revel in it. Unless they have something to lose, like a marriage, kids etc. Then they gotta really trust you to tell.


  • #9
    Yourself isit
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,257 ✭✭✭Yourself isit


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I'm with you on the Criminal Minds type conversation, but my friends who have regular one night stands just talk about it...a lot...so it's...

    MF, as we sit in a bar - "see that one over there, she squirts, like all over the place, and see that one in the corner...yeah I know she's married, but sure he's a clown...anyway, she's filthy..." And on and on and on. Backed up by the texts on the second phone, corroboration from female friends etc. etc.

    Fellows having one nights stands regularly revel in it. Unless they have something to lose, like a marriage, kids etc. Then they gotta really trust you to tell.

    Do they ever sidle up to you and ask you if you would think less of someone who had a one night stand?


  • #10
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Yourself isit wrote: »
    Do they ever sidle up to you and ask you if you would think less of someone who had a one night stand?

    Always, and I explain that I don't think less of them, I just don't envy their inability to form a lifelong relationship. And then we guffaw, get back to sport or politics, another woman walks in, friend sees her and nudges me...and the cycle starts again...


  • #11
    Jawgap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,297 ✭✭✭✭Jawgap


    People are having fun and enjoying themselves......

    .....down with that sort of thing :D

    So what? As long as everyone'e enjoying themselves and no one's getting hurt why should it be an issue?


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  • #12
    Day Lewin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,779 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    Deleted User wrote: »
    I'm with you on the Criminal Minds type conversation, but my friends who have regular one night stands just talk about it...a lot...so it's...

    MF, as we sit in a bar - "see that one over there, she squirts, like all over the place, and see that one in the corner...yeah I know she's married, but sure he's a clown...anyway, she's filthy..." And on and on and on. Backed up by the texts on the second phone, corroboration from female friends etc. etc.

    Fellows having one nights stands regularly revel in it. Unless they have something to lose, like a marriage, kids etc. Then they gotta really trust you to tell.

    Crikey. Remind me to never shift him. He tells.
    Indiscretion is a worse crime than promiscuity.
    That being said, I mightn't judge his behaviour, or hers, but I'd be wary of bedding down with someone who gets around that much.

    #crabs #stillwondering


  • #13
    IvyTheTerrible
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,949 ✭✭✭✭IvyTheTerrible


    Why would I know, and if I did why would I care?


  • #14
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Day Lewin wrote: »
    Crikey. Remind me to never shift him. He tells.
    Indiscretion is a worse crime than promiscuity.
    That being said, I mightn't judge his behaviour, or hers, but I'd be wary of bedding down with someone who gets around that much.

    It's not indiscretion in the sense of bragging about it. It's only told amongst a very close circle of friends, it's more that there isn't much we wouldn't know about each other.


  • #15
    Homer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,375 ✭✭✭Homer


    Really depends whether it's a woman or a man in most people's eyes..

    "'A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a sh1tty lock.'”


  • #16
    The flying mouse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭The flying mouse


    The last one night stand I had , I ended up with swollen ankles.


  • #17
    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    I think it's disgraceful, a sure sign that a person is the absolute scum of the earth and deserving of a long, painful, excruciating death.

    Furnish your bedroom properly, or don't furnish it at all.


  • #18
    Barry Badrinath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,460 ✭✭✭Barry Badrinath


    No


  • #19
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Friends, nope as long as they weren't being stupid or constantly making the same mistakes and getting hurt. Guys, meh. Not so much. I wear mac lipstick, too expensive for kissing fucckboys, I wouldn't have any interest in a guy that was known for one night stands trying to play me.


  • #20
    bodice ripper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,681 ✭✭✭bodice ripper


    Why didn't you just title the thread 'I am over 40 and I slept with a 26 year old"? Seeing as its what you wanted to tell us...


  • #21
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Ghost Pepper wrote: »
    Why are you disparaging towards men who like to have casual sex?


    I wouldn't care if they were or not, I just wouldn't sleep with one


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  • #22
    Chancer3001
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,480 ✭✭✭Chancer3001


    Im 40.....

    Got the ride off a confident 26 year old....

    MUST. SOMEHOW. MAKE. THREAD. ABOUT. IT...


  • #23
    dar100
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,735 ✭✭✭dar100


    If you're that guy who was on the luas at Heston station last night, she was no more than 19, my misses thought she was about 17!!!!


  • #24
    Goya
    Closed Accounts Posts: 464 ✭✭Goya


    No if I wasn't getting involved with them, but I wouldn't be thinking fair play to them either - I don't agree with this "Must be really sexually liberated in order to look enlightened" outlook. As with anything, people have differing, nuanced views on it. And I wouldn't be interested in getting involved with a man who is a player (nor would I blame a man for not being interested in a woman who's really promiscuous).
    Homer wrote: »
    Really depends whether it's a woman or a man in most people's eyes..

    "'A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a sh1tty lock.'”
    A key that can open many locks is a huge security risk.


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