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Christmas card for recently bereaved

  • 09-12-2016 9:52pm
    #1
    Gael23
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    Not too sure what to do here.
    An aunt of mine lost her husband during the year and I know an ordinary joyful Christmas card isn't appropriate but not sure what to replace it with. She's quite a religious person so would be traditional about that sort of thing.


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  • #2
    ytpe2r5bxkn0c1
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    The tradition in Ireland is to neither send nor receive cards in the year of a family death. But, a simple hand written note saying how she's in your thoughts at this time would be suitable. A mass bouquet with the note might be an idea.


  • #3
    osarusan
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    Find one that's 'beautiful' instead of joyful. There are cards that would be appropriate. Ideally ones with no printed message inside.

    Something like this maybe?

    The message you write will be the main thing.


  • #4
    jluv
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    If she's religious you can get Christmas cards that are mass cards from churches. So it's a christmas card requesting a mass for the person/family.


  • #5
    Mr. FoggPatches
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    jluv wrote: »
    If she's religious you can get Christmas cards that are mass cards from churches. So it's a christmas card requesting a mass for the person/family.

    +1


  • #6
    Gael23
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    jluv wrote: »
    If she's religious you can get Christmas cards that are mass cards from churches. So it's a christmas card requesting a mass for the person/family.

    Was thinking maybe something like that. Or maybe a card with "Thinking of you"


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  • #7
    ancapailldorcha
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    OP, I have moved your thread to the Bereavement forum. You might find it more helpful. Anyone new here please note the change in charter.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • #8
    [Deleted User]
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    Miles Rough Hijacker wrote: »
    The tradition in Ireland is to neither send nor receive cards in the year of a family death. But, a simple hand written note saying how she's in your thoughts at this time would be suitable. A mass bouquet with the note might be an idea.

    I know that the bereaved often would not send cards- but they would tend to receive them, maybe due to people not knowing the tradition. So OP, if you don't get a card this year as normal, it's just your Aunt adhering to tradition.
    jluv wrote: »
    If she's religious you can get Christmas cards that are mass cards from churches. So it's a christmas card requesting a mass for the person/family.

    I agree; OP, if you feel like sending a card, a Christmas mass card is ideal.


  • #9
    Ben Gadot
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    I didn't realise it was tradition not to send an Xmas card in the year of a bereavement? I can only speak for my mother in that if she thought people didn't send her the cards they always did just because this is the first Xmas since she lost her husband, she wouldn't be happy!

    Just pick a tactful card and write a heartfelt note inside telling her you're thinking of her.


  • #10
    Gael23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,127 ✭✭✭✭Gael23


    I got one that says simply Christmas Blessings" on the front with a religious picture and then inside the message "may god bless you at Christmas and during the year" and then just a personal message that we are thinking of her and her family.


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