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Homesick and in love with ex

  • 09-12-2016 09:24PM
    #1
    earthchild8777
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5 ✭


    thanks for the replys i know everything everyone is saying i need to make the decision myself and soon. I think all i needed at the moment was to get it off me chest.

    Thanks again


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    From how I read it, this is only going to go one way. The question is, how and when is it going to get there?
    Take the three week holiday, see how your feelings are after it, and if by being there makes you want to be home all the more, then you need to be truthful with yourself and be truthful with your husband.
    There is no point growing miserable in Ireland if you don't want to be here. If its the deal breaker, so be it, you are both young enough to start again and only each other to tie up the loose ends.
    Life is short, have no regrets.


  • #3
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    1. Why did you get married
    2. How can you love your husband and be texting your ex and disrespecting him.

    You smack of grass is greener syndrome. Used a lad to break up with your ex.

    Use your ex to leave your husband.

    Grow up. Relationships take work and commitment. Work and commit or dont be in a relationship


  • #4
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,431 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    Why did you jump into a marriage so quickly? you got yourself into this mess so you cant expect any sympathy.
    My advice would be to divorce your husband and move back home, what youre doing and feeling isnt fair to him and you both obviously want very different things, you cant string people along and jump from one guy to the next because youve got 'feelings'. Grow up and make some better choices.


  • #5
    s15r330
    Closed Accounts Posts: 944 ✭✭✭s15r330


    Do you really want to wake up in 20 years, miserable and looking back thinking why you wasted your life?!
    Life is too short, go home.


  • #6
    Ben Gadot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,767 ✭✭✭Ben Gadot


    I don't think there's any real point in asking the OP why she married her husband, what's done is done and all that.

    You say you love your husband op but if that was so, you wouldn't be afraid of going home for fear of not coming back. Your marriage, on both sides, almost sounds of one of convenience so you really need to stop and ask yourself how much more you can take.

    My brother faced a similar situation. He comes from a large family, where he's the only one that emigrated. Not only that but emigrated to the other side of the world. He's missed out on a lot of things, both joyous and sorrowful. He also has a long term partner that has children from a previous relationship and doesn't want anymore.

    My brother had to stop a few years ago and seriously evaluate whether it was worth it, was the life he built for himself away from home worth the hardship of being away from home. He eventually decided it was. You have to make that evaluation now op with no excuses.


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