Teenagers!!

GMCED

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

gramar

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

Sounds like he needs a wake up call.

fizzypish

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

Ask him how he stays awake on sleeping tablets and weed. I want to sleep for a week after 1 toke. Serious answer, ask a MOD to move your question to personal issues. You probably won't get much in the way of useful advice in AH and eventually you'll be accused of gender bias.

PARlance

Sounds like you need to take some time out to reflect on the situation, then sleep on your decision.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Take enough of the sleeping tablets and you'll be mad awake, pulling the place asunder, but won't have any recollection of it. Whatever about the weed, the sleeping pills need to be knocked on the head

Sam Kade

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

For a start stop making up shock stories and posting them on internet forums.

Akrasia

Show him Reefer Madness. actually, light up a spliff and watch it with him.

ElChe32

Inject him with heroin for good measure. That'll learn him good.

mackeire

How did you find out?

A bit of a shock story here, had a mate who was mad into sleeping pills, cough bottles, the codine side of flu tablets, all that kind of stuff. He used to wash them down with a few cans. He also took e's, smoked weed, smoked hash, did whatever he could get his hands on really.

To cut a long story short, most of his teeth fell out and he ended up dropping dead at 30.

Not sure if it was due to the abuse on his body or some other underlying issue but the fact is hes gone and it's more than likely the drugs.

I've put about 15 years into 3 sentences there so obviously you won't see the whole picture but the point that I am making is stop your son from taking the sleeping pills, they will more than likely lead to harder drugs!

The flying mouse

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

Have a talk with him in an educated way, not condescending one ,Is it just a passing phase cause his/her mates is doing it ? You know your child more than us if he don't or wont listen to you try & get someone he respects to talk to him or/& go & talk to an addiction councillor.

The King of Moo

Start taking the drugs too, and rapping about them.

He'll be mortified into going straight.

me_irl

Start leaving leaflets around the house about drug rehab / counselling.

Watch him go hyper paranoid.

Have a bit of fun with him.

Stigura

Wait till his mates come round and sit in with them, having a spliff yeself. Talk about how ye always used to love all this, back in the day. In fact, why even suggest ye ever stopped.

Nothing makes teenagers cringe quite like grown men liking what they like. They'll change direction, just to rebel and show themselves as not like you.

SEPT 23 1989

I blame the parents

looksee

Sleeping tablets for a buzz? I have only once or twice taken them for an odd night and they made me sleep (doh) and left me feeling hungover the next day.

dont bother

nothing wrong with weed.

harry Bailey esq

dont bother wrote: »

nothing wrong with weed.

There is though,if the young gentleman in question is only 16.And thats coming from someone who has smoked more or less daily since 1993.That said,if i were faced with the same dilemma I'd be much more concerned about the tablets,people do stupid,stupid things and black out after those.My son is 13 in a few days,it scares me sometimes looking at him and knowing what I was upto myself at his age,as he's still very much a child.If the situation was to arise which hopefully it doesn't please god,some mild violence would be the first course of action.Enough to scare him,but without breaking any bones.

vg88

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

If the situation was to arise which hopefully it doesn't please god,some mild violence would be the first course of action.Enough to scare him,but without breaking any bones.

Yes a parent beating/assaulting their own child always does the trick.

OP be honest with your child and be open. Talk about it and find out why he's doing it if you can, while trying not to lose the plot, and let him know the dangers of drugs and how it can lead down to a dark path.

dont bother

he needs to be explained to that he'll be mush brained if he begins smoking at that young age. his brain hasnt developed fully yet and you should advise him to steer clear of the weed until he's about 20. (even though up to about 25 you're still really a child-brain) but i think 20 is safe enough in terms of weed.

Glenster

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

Post on a website about it. #parenting

Dravokivich

moloner4 wrote: »

Yes a parent beating/assaulting their own child always does the trick.

I think he was talking more so about a rough situation his child could naively find themselves in, more so than striking the child himself.

uch

I'd tackle him over the Benzo's, they are a bollocks of a drug and extremely difficult to detox off

degsie

GMCED wrote: »

Just found out my 16yr son is smoking weed/hash.. taking sleeping tabs for a buzz? What do I do?

If you had a daughter doing this would you be as concerned? I suspect gender bias at play here.

BorneTobyWilde

degsie wrote: »

If you had a daughter doing this would you be as concerned? I suspect gender bias at play here.

I'd be more concerned if it was a girl .

Glenster

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

I'd be more concerned if it was a girl .

Will the sexism never end?

harry Bailey esq

moloner4 wrote: »

Yes a parent beating/assaulting their own child always does the trick.

OP be honest with your child and be open. Talk about it and find out why he's doing it if you can......

Why are you doing it son?Because it feels great dad and really chills me out,but i promise I won't do it again.Ok son im so glad we had this father son chat,here's an idea,why don't we go and get our vaginas waxed together while we're at it,my treat......
Cop on and move back to bloody Switzerland or get real for christ sake man.A good boot up the hole never hurt anyone.You don't win friends with salad :mad:

ScumLord

dont bother wrote: »

nothing wrong with weed.

Not really, not at that age.

It's not going to turn his brain to mush as others have said. The danger is much more serious. He could end up with early onset of serious conditions like schizophrenia. It's not guaranteed, it's an outside possibility depending on family history, but it's a risk not worth taking. Of course, telling a teenager not to take risks is virtually impossible, their predisposed to taking risks at this age and telling them not to only makes them want to take risks even more.

I know plenty of lads that have smoked from that age and are perfectly fine.

The sleeping pills thing is dumb, it's taking drugs for the sake of taking drugs.

The problem with teenagers is you can't just say no. Especially if they've nothing to fill that time with. I think it's a problem with our society in general, we have no purpose, no cause, no direction. All that matters is immediate concerns. If he has nothing to replace the drug use, then he's not going to stop using the drugs.

vg88

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

Why are you doing it son?Because it feels great dad and really chills me out,but i promise.Ok son im so glad we had this father son chat,here's an idea,why don't we go and get our vaginas waxed together while we're at it,my treat......
Cop on and move back to bloody Switzerland or get real for christ sake man.A good boot up the hole never hurt anyone.You don't win friends with salad :mad:

So instead of teaching a child what the problem is with drugs and teaching why it's bad you rather beat up your own child? Would you beat your (if you have one) daughter too if she did the same?

Violence never worked on me and others from parent, it just leads to resentment and not respect, but fear. The best way my father ever taught me was through honest talks and being told why it's wrong. All violence I had just taught me nothing and how to be better at hiding it.

Sam Kade

So the op gave a look in at 9:42 said nothing and left :mad:

Pat Mustard

gramar wrote: »

Sounds like he needs a wake up call.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YMPAH67f4o

JupiterKid

It's threads like this that make me delighted that I don't have children...:D

Rezident

Sounds like you have a normal teenager. Do not panic. He'll probably grow out of it and start using alcohol as his drug of choice in a few years since he lives in Ireland.