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Am I a bad girlfriend?

  • 05-11-2016 6:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Its my bf's sisters 30th bday tonight. It is strictly family and first cousins (ie none of her friends) going out not an official party but I dont feel up for going.I have a mountain of study to do and I am wrecked from 2x13 hour hospital shifts the past 2 days. On top of that I feel slightly intimated and weird because I dont drink whereas all these people do and drink a good bit. I have also never met a lot of them and feel really awkward and shy around new people. He knows about this and doesnt mind me not going he said its more than ok and understands but I still feel like a bad gf. Am I being really selfish?


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  • #2
    bee06
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,514 ✭✭✭bee06


    It sounds like not going is the right time to do. No point in going if you'all be unhappy and wreaked because he'll probably feel like he'll have to mind you. If you get on well with his sister maybe plan something like much for the three of ye to celebrate some other time.


  • #3
    meeeeh
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,624 ✭✭✭✭meeeeh


    You will be possibly branded a bit of a lemon but I doubt anyone would think that makes you a bad girlfriend. :D

    Make sure to wish happy birthday to the sister and get a present (if that is a habit in the family) but that's about it. It's not like you are skipping your boyfriend's birthday.


  • #4
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    I don't think you're being selfish. The long hospital shifts can go some way to being a plausible excuse for not attending. As another poster said, you can find a more personal way to mark the birthday instead.


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