Working with your partner or member of family

Andy From Sligo

who on here works full time or has worked with their partner or close member of the family? - does it work out for you? - do you get on OK?

What's it like being with them 24hours a day in work and then feel like when out of work?

Do you get on.. or argue?

Barry Badrinath

I'd kill you if we spent more than 5hrs together.

Kill you dead!

You need to change your name to The Riddler.

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I worked along side my father probably most, and it was fine. I would be quite fiery and he was very placid so if I was going mad he'd ignore me until I calmed down and then we'd continue on as normal til something else annoyed me.

I worked alongside my brother helping him out a bit or both of us helping out dad and it's actually war. We do dispicable things to each other. We would go to the bog, start fighting, I would throw turf at him, he would try stick my head under the water in a river, I would hit him with a plastic stick, he would hit the brakes suddenly on the tractor and knock me off whatever I was sitting or standing on. The worst he ever did was smash up a wasps nest with a hurl, jump into the tractor and closed the door and left me standing like a dope with angry wasps in my head/hair and down my front and back, stung to bits.

I'm single now but my most recent partner, i probably wouldn't have minded too much working with him. He's easy going enough and zones out when I talk so we wouldn't kill each other too much.

s4uv3

If you're working with your partner/family member for 24 hours a day, then y'all need some workers rights.

cbyrd

I worked with family for 22 years. Fcuk me never again. The politics. My dad was the referee between me and my older brother, who didn't want me working there cos I was better and more popular. My mam always backed him up , which always got my goats as I'm the only girl in 7 kids.
Asshol he was, had an affair with my best friend that I knew all about and still Lorded about the place. I didn't speak to him for 7 years til my dad died. They had a baby that she passes off as her husband's...

My marriage broke down shortly after my dad died and I have a baby with someone else. He doesn't speak to me now cos he doesn't approve turned the rest of the family against me too, but for the price of peace I've gone past caring.
He made my life hell for the sake of his inheritance.. good riddance.
So, I'd advise against working with family.

RobertKK

Family farm, so from a small child to an adult you were always working/being with close family members.
From sitting on the potato sower when 6 along with my sister and mother as we sowed potatoes as my father drove the tractor, to stacking square bales of hay, to milking the cows, to taking over the farm.
It was all I ever knew until my parents couldn't do it anymore and my sibling left for her own life. We all got on great.
As the years go by and times change, all that remain are the good memories when we all worked together.

Stheno

I'm working with my OH to help him to develop a new business.

Sometimes he drives me mad at simple stuff he should know that I know due to the industry, then other times he turns around and thanks me for contributing.

We have very different styles of working and it works to be honest, he's hoping it will lead to him branching out from what he does now and I enjoy giving him the support.

If/when he gets up and running I'll not have much to do, just a few hours a week, but I'm self employed anyway so I can do it.

We do have a shared goal and that makes a difference.

I do admire him very much for being able to say to me that he appreciates my input as we think differently, he admires me for being patient with him.

mansize

Sometimes my left hand doesn't know what my right hand is doing...

mansize

RobertKK wrote: »

Family farm, so from a small child to an adult you were always working/being with close family members.
From sitting on the potato sower when 6 along with my sister and mother as we sowed potatoes as my father drove the tractor, to stacking square bales of hay, to milking the cows, to taking over the farm.
It was all I ever knew until my parents couldn't do it anymore and my sibling left for her own life. We all got on great.
As the years go by and times change, all that remain are the good memories when we all worked together.

I cant imagine sitting on a potato sower, is all that safe, for a six year old...

RobertKK

mansize wrote: »

I cant imagine sitting on a potato sower, is all that safe, for a six year old...

Probably not, but then times were different in the 80s. We use to also be allowed on top of the bales of hay as they were brought home and great fun ducking to avoid the tree branches.
Now I think we are all paranoid and probably no bad thing about the dangers, but machinery and tractors were far smaller then.

Rogueish

I've worked with my mother and brother when I was a teenager for a number of years and we got on grand. It was part time work though waitressing/bar/banqueting staff work so we were never sitting looking at one another. We all have fond memories of it.

More recently I've worked with my Oh. We have a business which we have started and built up. 14years on I work full time in the business and him part-time. I'm the day to day manager but he is equal decision maker for all important stuff. It works but in saying that we are both pretty easy going (him even more so than I). I've also worked alongside him in his full time job and shared an office without any issue.

It just depends on both if your personality types whether you can let the small stuff go, discuss the big stuff make a decision and then move on. Have different interests outside of work and make sure that not every conversation is work related.

Mackman

I've worked with my Dad for a year, which went fine. No dramas at all.

I wouldn't work with my wife though, she doesn't take criticism very well.

Andy From Sligo

I used to have my own shop business years ago, needed some help but couldnt afford a proper full time worker so my wife came in and helped out - couldnt help when she was there treating her like I would any other employer tried hard not too ... anyway in the end she left, couldnt stand working with me haha , if i ever ask her who's been your worse boss ever she always says me and that she could never do that again lol

I worked with my older Brother years ago in a shop business , he had been there for years and was like an assistant manager and I had just joined the place so had to do the obligatory making cups of tea, and sweeping up and all that lot - that was hard going because at the end of the day he was my brother but had to give me orders when in work

Andy From Sligo

oh yeah I also worked with my dad for a while - I worked on a shop counter and he sort of like semi retired and was getting fed up at home and asked me if there was any jobs going where I worked and there was a packing job going there and it was just around from were the counter was - I found myself curbing swearing and any other stuff I used to talk about with the other lads on the counter because my dad was just around the corner LOL , that was weird

tomwaterford

RobertKK wrote: »

Probably not, but then times were different in the 80s. We use to also be allowed on top of the bales of hay as they were brought home and great fun ducking to avoid the tree branches.
Now I think we are all paranoid and probably no bad thing about the dangers, but machinery and tractors were far smaller then.

I have heard tales of kids on loads of square bales crossing the old Bridge in Carrick on suir having to jump over the ESB wires

RobertKK

tomwaterford wrote: »

I have heard tales of kids on loads of square bales crossing the old Bridge in Carrick on suir having to jump over the ESB wires

:eek:

That seems a very extreme sport for children :pac:

The only electricity involved in our bringing the hay home was the 1985 thunderstorms, there we were - my father,my sister and I in the field helping to get the bales onto the trailer, and next thing multiple lightning bolts were hitting the field we were in.
No way were we going to be on the bales home that day, we were all terrified, never since have I seen lightning hit so close - less than 30ft.

I think for a majority of people, working with family is or was something special.