curious guy with gf

abab72122016

hi so basically ive done some stuff in the past and it was ok enjoyed it but always liked girls more . But lately ive been finding myself more and more tempted to hook up again. Im just wondering is this common with bi/curious guy's or has anyone else been in this position

L1011

It's be fairly common, but I would assume your girlfriend is expecting an exclusive relationship and you run the risk of losing that if you stray away (to either gender).

If she's aware of what you've done in the past it may be worth discussing it with her.

abab72122016

well yea she is unfortunately lol and no she doesn't know to be honest nobody does so that kinda snookers me .I wouldn't even know where to begin that conversation ha

Peregrinus

abab72122016 wrote: »

well yea she is unfortunately lol and no she doesn't know to be honest nobody does so that kinda snookers me .I wouldn't even know where to begin that conversation ha

Oh, that's easy. You just ask her if she's had any same-sex experiences or same-sex attraction. (Obviously you need to pick your moment for that, but all couples have conversations in which they discuss their respective pasts.) She either did or she didn't. Then she will quite naturally put the same question to you, and you say "well, to be honest, there was this one time . . .". And you take it from there.

Mind you, the fact that you've had same-sex experiences in the past isn't automatically going to flow through to a licence to experiment now. Presumably you had opposite-sex relationships before you met her, and presumably she knows this, but she still expects an exclusive relationship now. That calculation doesn't change if it turns out that not all of your previous relationships were quite as opposite-sex as she had assumed.

abab72122016

ha yes well im kinda assuming that it won't change anything. But yea that could be a good way of bringing it up although obviously it's alot easier if she says yes and not no

Locker10a

To answer your question I think yes it is normal for bi guys to go through phases of same sex attraction and opposite attraction, being bi for some people doesn't mean you're attracted to all people at the same time, it's a personal thing really, people's sexuality can vary greatly

Locker10a

To answer your question I think yes it is normal for bi guys to go through phases of same sex attraction and opposite attraction, being bi for some people doesn't mean you're attracted to all people at the same time, it's a personal thing really, people's sexuality can vary greatly

abab72122016

Yea ive always been a bit reluctant to even call myself bi because of that varying scale . Its a bit funny though without going into the gorey details the stuff i do like doing would probably go past being called curious experimenting. So i suppose by that logic i would be bi

JupiterKid

OP - it sounds like you're bi. But being bi doesn't mean that you have a carte blanche to cheat on your partner. You should sit down and discuss with your GF if you can. And if you do play away, make sure to play safe so as not to put her health in any danger.

paulmorro

What's the OP's actual question? Do bi guys in straight relationships sometimes fancy guys (yup - like anyone else fancies the relevant gender) or do bi guys cheat because they see someone of a different gender (some do, some don't - like any sexuality - but it's not a prerequisite for being bi and being bi isn't an excuse)?

abab72122016

ah ok thanks for clearing that up here i was thinking being bi meant i could do whatever i want .Of course i know its not a excuse ,you don't think i already feel pretty bad about it (haven't cheated btw ). To be honest i was looking to see what other peoples expiernces have been here and possibly no judgemental bs