Girl always on my mind...

LegacyUser

Hey, am 20 and met a girl from a previous job who I now see around college. I have received signs of attraction from her whenever I was hanging out with her, but that being said she is very flirty in general. I get jealous when she is around other men and someone in particular. We get on well and I fancy her. Her personality is amazing and she's pretty.

However, I can't bring myself to do anything about it. I don't have many female friends. I probably have nothing to lose apart from destroying our friendship and perhaps mine with our other friends from work.

I know her pretty well, despite only knowing her a few months. I feel like if I don't do this I'm gonna regret this. However, I said this about the last girl I was infatuated with and now I'm over her.

Can someone give me advice? I can't get her out of my brain!

Ask her out on a date. Don't declare your feelings. Send a casual text: "Hey, I was wondering if you would like to go on a date one evening next week? Maybe cinema and some food. No problem if you'd rather not."
If she says yes, happy days. If she says no, reply cheerfully, "No worries - I just thought I'd ask! :-)", swallow the bad feelings and move along. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Life is short and there are far far worse things than these little rejections.

baby and crumble

Mystery Egg wrote: »

Ask her out on a date. Don't declare your feelings. Send a casual text: "Hey, I was wondering if you would like to go on a date one evening next week? Maybe cinema and some food. No problem if you'd rather not."
If she says yes, happy days. If she says no, reply cheerfully, "No worries - I just thought I'd ask! :-)", swallow the bad feelings and move along. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Life is short and there are far far worse things than these little rejections.

Make sure you do use the word "date" in there also. Otherwise if you're friends now you run the risk of a miscommunication and it becomes awkward and horrible.

LegacyUser

I wouldn't use the word date. That would make me cringe. I don't think it's the done thing with Irish people to be honest, they talk about dates but you don't say 'do you want to go on a date'. Asking her out just the two is enough. And when you do make it obvious you like her and if she likes you you will know. Keep it casual. I would get freaked out if it's all formal and pretentious.

retro:electro

I think if a guy I wasn't overtly friendly with asked me to the cinema just the two of us I would know it was a date, he wouldn't need to explicitly say the word "date".

grumpynerd

it's called oneitis.

no human is that great.