Feeling very lonely & lost in life

Snowbites

Dont know where to start & feel a little silly posting here but also feel silly talking to friends or family about this. Basically Im feeling so lonely at the moment and not sure how to snap out of it. Im fed up with how my life has panned out. Been a rough few years following the break up of a long term relationship and I seem to be be making the wrong decisions ever since.
Ex has moved on, engaged to be married, new baby etc, we have a good relationship & Im happy for him. Meanwhile here I am not getting anywhere in life and some days I actually think whats the point of it all. We have a son together so he's the only thing keeping me going but its just so hard. I've been seeing a counsellor so apart from that I don't know what else to do.
Has anyone else been in similar situation and how do you get yourself through it?

LegacyUser

Don't feel silly about expressing yourself, you would be shocked to know how many people are lonely. But for some reason it's a taboo thing in this society to admit how lonely you are. People are lonely in relationships, out of relationships, in groups, when out partying, with their families etc etc. the School of Life video on YouTube 'why we're fated to be lonely' describes this well.
Anyway acknowledging how you feel is the first step. Next is taking small actions, even one a week that wil start the momentum of change. Aim to start connecting to people again, simply start a chat with someone you might not have otherwise thought to, make more of an effort with existing friendships. It would be a mistake to seek out another relationship while you're feeling the way you're feeling, you must try feeling a bit more content in yourself first. Take baby steps, a small step in the right direction creates a shift that will give you confidence and positivity to keep going. Meditate. Do not compare your life to others. If you've done that well use it as motivation to know you can be happy too. There is no reason why not. But be aware you've no idea the problems other people have because they never broadcast them. You've only to look at the volume of posts here to know people keep their problems quiet. You appear to be focussing on your exes life. Distract yourself from doing that. Join a class, a meetup group. The only thing you can focus on is your own life it's the only thing you've got, focusing on others is pointless.
Don't feel you have to change your life overnight. That's where you get to feel stuck, because you won't be motivated and you won't even try because it's too much. If you're working book yourself something to look forward to, a trip, even by yourself. I don't know how old your son is maybe you could bring him or get your family to take care of him. It's very refreshing to sometimes take the train alone somewhere with a few books and just go. Just make a plan of small changes that will make you a little happier as they start to happen.