Lost

marklynch065

Hi guys,

It's been awhile since I posted last I'm just feeling pretty low at the minute and would just love to talk/vent really.

I've come out gay to everyone this year, and although it feels great to be out nothing much has changed in my life. I haven't made one gay friend since coming out and the one guy that I briefly dated moved away due to work.

I have went to a couple of gay club nights in my area but found that everyone was very cliquey nobody would talk to me. Despite this I felt I should maybe go to the next one on the off chance it might be better. I sent a message to the promoters of the club night via the gay dating app I'm using (just to find out the date of the next one) and rather than replying I discovered they blocked me. I feel like the gay social pariah.

Even on the dating app I rarely get messages from guys I find attractive. I've been told I'm good looking yet now I'm even beginning to doubt this.

I just feel so lost and alone at the minute. I'm 29 and should be having the time of my life instead I just feel completely isolated. My straight friends are great, but they just can't relate to my problems hence the reason I'm posting here.
I appreciate any responses I get and thank you for taking the time to read this.

M

Locker10a

Sorry to hear you're feeling down!
But please remain optimistic, 29 is a daunting age for many people especially when you've just come out and want to start a fresh but you really are so young and they say life begins at 30!
You have a new frontier ahead of you so stay positive !
Dating in any scene gay or straight is tough and most of the time it's down to luck! But perseverance is important! Keep it up, keep positive there's someone out there for you but you can't wait for them to knock on your door! Keep trying and if not in your local scene then elsewhere, online, through groups or activities etc
Remember you're only beginning a new chapter and it sometimes takes a while to get into the story

mike222

Hello Mark,

I'm similar in age to you and, yes, it can be difficult to date, especially dating with guys. Sometimes, genuine guys can be difficult to find, but they are out there. I think the worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others, easier said than done I know. Just keep persevering.

Almond87

I do relate to you as I'm same age and often find the whole dating scene very shallow, regardless of how good looking you are. But as Locker10a was saying, you need to be aware perseverance is greatly important. Looking at other people in the same situation, I can only say things will eventually work out.