Only supposed to be having a shower in digs twice a week?

walkingpsycho

I'm a first year student. This is my first time being away from home so my dad thought it would be good for me to go into digs. I get along with the lady fairly well and its been brandish up until now. I came home from college today and she told me that I should only be having a shower twice a week. She went on to say that she had guys staying with her last year and they only showered twice a week. I'm a girl, my hair gets greasy pretty quick and I've to walk everywhere so I like to go for a shower nearly everyday. So digs time that amounts to 4 showers a week. I only spend 5 - 10 mins in the shower and that's it. I don't leave it running when I'm not using it or anything. There's another girl in the digs but she's only here from Tuesday morning to Thursday morning so she only has about 1 to 2 showers a week. I'm paying €90 weekly. I don't get food or anything. I use the kettle in the morning and the microwave max 3 times a week. I'm only get back around 8ish everyday so I don't have lights on the whole time or anything. I try not to have a shower every day but I've been sick and stuff so I've used it pretty much every day since I got here. Is this unreasonable or should I just deal with it? If it is unreasonable how would I go about dealing with it? She's an older lady.

Daisy 55

This is unreasonable!

Daisy 55

When she brings it up again, say what you've said here. That you don't spend long in the shower, that you walk everywhere and that you'll need to shower! Ridiculous!

loconnor1001

I've never lived in digs before, but this seems ridiculous! Totally unreasonable, if you're paying rent you should be able to shower 20 times a week if you want. :eek:

deandean

Vent outrage
And settle with her on 3 showers a week
When I was in college the showers in digs were never used because we used the sports facilities in college.

alroley

You should be able to shower as much as you want! Most people shower every single day. Twice a week is ridiculous.

Water John

4 showers of 10 mins = 40 mins, 2/3 of 1hr.
9Kw per hour, 2/3 =6 units electricity approx by 20 cent.
Total cost for the week €1.20.

Give her a simple maths lesson.

Tigger

Water John wrote: »

4 showers of 10 mins = 40 mins, 2/3 of 1hr.
9Kw per hour, 2/3 =6 units electricity approx by 20 cent.
Total cost for the week €1.20.

Give her a simple maths lesson.

you forgot the tiny water cost lets say 1.30

op you can shower every day and if they don't agree then they are being unreasonable

Water John

If my daughter or son only spent 10 mins in the shower, I'd think they had to be somewhere urgent.

Mr Arrior

If ya don't get any luck. Any good deals on gyms nearby? Workout when ya want and a shower as well.

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

That's ridiculous carry on. A person should reasonably expect to be able to have a shower at least every day if they please. As an aside, I wouldn't like to be sat beside any of the lads that lived there last year in college!

spoonface

What's happened here is that after a contract has commenced with your landlord, she has added conditions that were not present from the outset.
So if anything, she is in breach of contract to try to impose these on you now.
Stand your ground, she's the one being unreasonable here.

Corca Baiscinn

Hi OP, a quick daily shower is of course reasonable but contrary to what last poster said I imagine there is no contract so forget about any "rights" or legalities. Does the lady have any children? if not and she is just used to lads whose hygiene was less of a priority she just may not understand. Try smiling and explaining politely what you said in your op re walking everywhere, hair needing a wash etc. also, try to find out if she's worried about cost, ie electricty, that the pump will wear out or that you are taking up the bathroom too much. Just explain politely that you are used to and require a daily shower, that you didn't realise it would be a problem and would she like you to look for somewhere else? I know this is calling her bluff but it sounds as if you are very little bother so I'd guess she'll give in!

athtrasna

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ger vallely

My goodness what a stinge! As long as you clean up after yourself and don't shower (if it's a noisy shower) too early or too late. Any given day could bring about a different set of circumstances which could lead to the need for a shower. Plus, as a female, at certain times especially, it is more important than usual to shower and keep fresh. Terrible that she should put this on you.

Arcade_Tryer

Use your two shower allowance on Monday and Tuesday.

On Wednesday, in her majesty's presence, comment how you are so hot and tired, filthy even from your various exertions during the day, and hint strongly at the suggestion of a shower. "Oh, I'd love a shower right now" OR "Oh, I'd really like a shower right now". Await response. If no response, you will need to be more explicit, "Would you mind if I had a quick shower?" Depending on the response; whereby YES (she says no problem) you have slowly began to normalise the idea of showering each day, same as if she had responded positively to the initial suggestion. If she says, YES (but mentions the 2 day allowance again) you should start looking for new digs. And if her majesty says NO, dial your Dad on the phone immediately and ask him to have a word. That's what dads are for.

the_pen_turner

I think I would stop showering there for a few day (wash else where if you want) then spend an hour in their.
im sure she will comment on it. then tell her you are so dirty that a 5 minute shower wouldn't cut it and you need the hour.
im sure she will let you wash normally

Ursus Horribilis

Is there any possibility of moving? Or are you stuck there for the year? When I think back to the digs I lived in during my first year at college, I wish I'd felt confident enough to stand up to the landlady. The nonsense I tolerated as a green 17/18 year old...

Have a chat with your dad and stick to your guns. Take your showers every day and if she gives you any guff tell her you intend to continue to take them. You're paying for them. And if she has any problems with that, she can talk to your father herself.