Should I stay or should I go

BertyytreB

I live abroad and work in a really tough job that pays really well. Financially it's been really good to us we've a house in Ireland in a nice area and it's rented and the rent covers the mortgage and some extra.

However we are growing really tired of where we are, the culture, the pressured job I'm in and we are starting to miss home. I have an opportunity to return to Ireland but the pay for what I do will be half and we will just get by. We are starting to visualise ourselves at home and I think the pressure of the job is impacting my personality and the stress is wearing on me.

We left when things where bad and really struggled at home and it's been the opposite since we moved away, we have zero money worries so my fear is returning to just get by or struggle. We are finding it tough to decide what to do...what would you do?

Xterminator

Can you save a few bob, and then move?

If you earn enough to get by here, you wont have to live from your saving,s but you can always have it just in case.

Noo

http://touch.boards.ie/forum/1726

Theres a "coming home" forum with plenty of threads for people in your situation. Might be helpful to check it out.

BertyytreB

We're trying to save a bit Xterminator but would still take 1-2years to have enough to be comfortable.

I'll check that out cheers Noo.

Airyfairy12

If it was me id stay another year or until the mortgage is covered on your rented house in ireland and in the meantime i'd save every spare cent I had and put it in the credit union when I came so id have a nice little savings fund to fall back on. You'd have your job for paying bills ect and your savings there so you'd never be scraping by, mortgage paid too. It would be worth the extra year or two of hard work.

Shint0

BertyytreB wrote: »

I think the pressure of the job is impacting my personality and the stress is wearing on me.

I know people here are saying if you could stick it out for one to two more years it might ease things for you financially for when you return home but the sentence I quoted is a bit of a red flag. Do you think you could survive another one to two years before you suffer from burnout because it sounds like you're already in the danger zone. Burnout is not easy to recover from but only you would know yourself where you might be on that scale right now. Just something to keep in mind.

suicide_circus

Do you have any reason to believe that your stress levels will come down equivalent to the pay in ireland? Most of my peers are being absolutely ridden by their employers and are stressed out of their minds.

BertyytreB

I work a minimum of 11hr days, I get contacted throughout the evening and weekends and occasionally work weekends. I do believe I will not have this much stress back home as I didn't before I left with any job I had.

I think you are right Shinto and I may have hit that point already but could I last another probably, will I enjoy the year - not really but I will get a heap of cash out of it.

davmol

Is it finance or IT you are in by any chance?

Im very aware of both sectors and the hours they work and 11 hours would be a good few hours more,on average,than the norm.

Shint0

It's a tough one to call. The only thing I would say by staying for the year is at least you know you have an end point at some time in the future, a goal to work towards and focus your mind on. Knowing you have an exit strategy might be enough to pull you through compared to feeling completely trapped like some people who can't get off the merry-go-round.

If you have an Employee Assistance Programme or similar in your company to the type we have here I would suggest you try to avail of it just to at least blow off steam and have some outlet for the pressure.

BertyytreB

Yes davmol it's in IT. I've actually had a conversation with my wife last night and we looked at all the pro's and con's and we're both now thinking it's more sensible to stay and like you say Shint0 just work towards that end point and then we'll have no regrets.

homerjay2005

BertyytreB wrote: »

We're trying to save a bit Xterminator but would still take 1-2years to have enough to be comfortable.

I'll check that out cheers Noo.

could you wait for a better paid oppurtunity to come up, allowing you to save in the meantime?

id advise you wait 2-3 years, stick it out and give it everything, everybody goes through periods of intense work in their life and if you can get through it, you will reap the benifits in a few years time - dont forget, youd also have 2-3 years of your mortgage paid off for you, by somebody else.

you could also try move jobs where you are and stay in it for a few years before moving home?