no interest in sex

LegacyUser

bit of an awkward topic but anyways

So I have no interest in males recently, I don't know why. I've had boys in my bed and don't even want them to kiss me. Every night I go out I want to pull like my friends but I have no desire, no matter how attractive the person.

I have no issue with boys and can talk to them easily, they approach me and without sounding arrogant, I could find a boy to bring back if I wanted. But I don't want to and I don't know why. All my friends are interested in lads and regularly pull, i want to be like them but I never end up doing it in the end.

I think my libido is really low, because the idea of getting with lads in clubs makes me feel sick. But I feel like I'll never meet lads I like if I don't make an effort. Are any girls the same?

LegacyUser

lowanddown wrote: »

bit of an awkward topic but anyways

So I have no interest in males recently, I don't know why. I've had boys in my bed and don't even want them to kiss me. Every night I go out I want to pull like my friends but I have no desire, no matter how attractive the person.

I have no issue with boys and can talk to them easily, they approach me and without sounding arrogant, I could find a boy to bring back if I wanted. But I don't want to and I don't know why. All my friends are interested in lads and regularly pull, i want to be like them but I never end up doing it in the end.

I think my libido is really low, because the idea of getting with lads in clubs makes me feel sick. But I feel like I'll never meet lads I like if I don't make an effort. Are any girls the same?

You may wish to look into Asexuality. Check out the AVEN website.
It's not that uncommon, I know a few asexual people.

Tigger99

Maybe your libido is low due to stress, the pill etc? If that's the case I'd recommend you chat to your doctor about it.

Or perhaps you are attracted to girls instead of boys?

kylith

If you have no interest then you have no interest. I would imagine that part of your low libido is that you're just picking up guys for the sake of it. I find that if I'm not actually attracted to someone then I have no interest in having sex with them.

I recommend giving it a break. Stop picking up randomers to be like your mates and focus on you. I bet you'll find your libido rising as you take the pressure off yourself and you may even meet someone you have a strong attraction to.

If you have never felt sexual desire then you may want to talk to your GP about it, or it's possible that you may be asexual: someone who just has no interest in sex, and that's ok too.

Dial Hard

lowanddown wrote:

I think my libido is really low, because the idea of getting with lads in clubs makes me feel sick.

How's your libido when you take men out of the equation? Do you have any sexual desire at all? As in, do you enjoy masturbation, erotica, porn, anything like that? Because I can go through phases where the thoughts of hooking up with someone just seems like far more hassle than it's worth, but I'll still enjoy looking after myself on a regular basis.

Also, is this just a recent thing? Did you used to enjoy sex and this has only developed in the last while, or is it a case that you were always only ever going through the motions because that's what you thought was expected of you?

If you literally feel no sexual desire at all and never have, then maybe look into the asexuality resources already mentioned.