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Feeling lonely in new city

  • 19-09-2016 11:45am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I moved to a new city in England just under 3 months ago and am finding it a huge struggle. The job I moved for is not what I thought it would be at all, they don't have me on the project that I moved for as it's too far behind, and I'm feeling so fed up and lonely here. I have been living in UK for 5 years and I think I'm just tired of it all.

    I'm fairly sure I want to move home to Dublin but I feel stupid that I can't seem to just get a grip and settle here, when everyone else seems to be having a brilliant time in London, where most of my long term friends live. I've never lived there and don't want to. Even as I type I know logically that everyone has their own struggles and what we see on Facebook and Instagram is only the good stuff. I just feel silly that others live in Australia and Canada where homesickness is a real thing, and I'm only a 45 minute flight from home and can't just get on with it here.

    I loved it when I first moved over but my priorities are changing. I want to settle down and have kids near my family, also my brothers are totally useless so if anything happened to my parents I'd feel guilty I didn't live in Ireland.

    I just find it very hard to figure out the jobs situation, after all I've barely worked in Ireland as an adult. The industry I have most experience in doesn't really exist there. I am totally guessing at what salary I could reasonably expect. Am I stupid to think I could afford to buy a place on my own? Is there anywhere to go for impartial careers advice at home, rather than just recruiters who try to shove you down a path you don't want to go?

    I was so optimistic moving here, I thought it would be the jolt I needed, but all I feel is homesick. After 5 years! Has anyone moved back to Ireland from UK, and how did you find it? I feel so lonely here and just want to run away. :( I know I need to join clubs blah blah in the sort term to make it bearable, and I will do, but my main priority is to escape.

    Just feel so low :( I have a counselling session which my amazing team leader set me up with this week, which I hope helps organise my thoughts somewhat. I suppose I just hope other boardsies have been through similar.


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  • #2
    uck51js9zml2yt
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    I moved to the UK after college in the 80's and moved back home after 3 years. Best decision I ever made.
    Likewise I've known couples who moved over the same time as me and 30 years on their kids are grown up and their lives are there.
    Nothing wrong with saying you've had enough and want to move home.
    England can be a very strange place to live. I had good friends there at the time but when I moved home we lost all contact and I've no desire to go back and see them.


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