Weight loss

forestgirl

Has anyone lost a lot of weight and people keep remarking it???

Mars Bar

If you haven't been trying to lose weight and you are then you should probably go see a doctor.

Gremlinertia

forestgirl wrote: »

Has anyone lost a lot of weight and people keep remarking it???

I'm not sure how this relates to the LTI forum, could you explain some more?.

forestgirl

I had to lose weight for my health,it was very difficult but it's even more difficult people remarking me on such a personal issue, folk that maybe only know me to see.

MrsMcSteamy

forestgirl wrote: »

I had to lose weight for my health,it was very difficult but it's even more difficult people remarking me on such a personal issue, folk that maybe only know me to see.

People commenting saying you have lost too much, your face is gone too narrow do my head in. It's hard enough to lose it so I just used to reply that they were just so used to my fat face they didn't know my skinny face. They didn't know where to look then. Some people think they can just say anything to you. Only way to handle them is with a smart reply.

Gremlinertia

Ok i'll move this to PI as there are many wiser than me there that may have a suggestion for you.

Ursus Horribilis

Usually when someone is losing weight because they were heavy and people comment on it, they're doing so as a compliment and as a way to encourage you to keep going.

Hollister11

Loosing weight is 80/20 diet/exercise.

Join slimming world and a gym and in a year you won't now yourself.

Ursus Horribilis

But she is losing weight - her issue isn't that she can't lose it. It's that people are commenting on her weight loss

SusieBlue

Hollister11 wrote: »

Loosing weight is 80/20 diet/exercise.

Join slimming world and a gym and in a year you won't now yourself.

Did you even read the thread at all?

Wesser

I lost three and half stone last year.

Sometimes I felt embarrassed when
People would say it to me.
Most people said nice things like oohhh you look fit. My real friends smiled at me and just said, you look hot you look fit or whatever. Some people would really raise their voices and look you up and down and go Oh my god you lost so much weight. I'm presuming this is the problem for you as you haven't really specified.????

One nasty person said, did you loose it intentionally or unintentionally? I was really squirming and really wanted say something like yeah I got leukaemia right there in the middle of the supermarket and make her squirm back but I didn't think of it in time, only after!!!!

But worst of all was my mother who went on and on about it.

Is that what the issue is OP?

forestgirl

I suppose it's a sensitive issue with me and perhaps people mean well but the same people keep going on about it,its really boring.I don't comment on people ever because I would consider it rude.Do people not actually think I may have being unwell.

Ursus Horribilis

Sometimes people can be insensitive and don't realise it. I've a cousin who went through heartache because he and his wife couldn't have children. Yet they'd have people asking them was there anything stirring or if they had kids.

I guess if it's bothering you that much,you could say to them you'd rather they didn't mention it again.

SB_Part2

A lot of people don't really know social boundaries when it comes to talking about other peoples weight.

Try your best to ignore them.

forestgirl

The thing is I'm about a size 10--12 now so in the few months I worked very hard at it alright because I had to so I was not that big to begin with.The part I don't like is when people say to me that I lost a tonne of weight kinda makes me feel I was miss piggy all along,now I definitely did need to lose it alright.

forestgirl

I don't point out to people if they have missing teeth or hairy chins because so what if they do I'm sure they are doing the best they can in life.I just hate the way people judge others on appearances because no one knows what they have going on in their lives,every one has their own troubles I don't speak of mine at all guess that's why I posted here

naughtysmurf

I lost a good bit of weight this year, i was overweight, I've been getting the , you are too thin, you've got too scrawny etc, all from family members

It's obvious I look better than I did so I just let it in one ear & out the other , what doesn't help though is if you continue to wear the clothes you wore when heavier, they don't hang right & make you look too thin, if you are doing that maybe get some new clothes that fit properly

Ursus Horribilis

forestgirl wrote: »

I don't point out to people if they have missing teeth or hairy chins because so what if they do I'm sure they are doing the best they can in life.I just hate the way people judge others on appearances because no one knows what they have going on in their lives,every one has their own troubles I don't speak of mine at all guess that's why I posted here

The vast majority of people will never comment on someone's appearance if they've hairy chins or have piled on the pounds. They're negative things. But when someone who was heavy decides to lose weight and is looking better than they did, it is considered to be a good thing and a real achievement. Your self esteem must've taken some battering if you're getting so bothered by praise.

forestgirl

I got new clothes alright,it seems strange when everything you try on fits.I always took a size 5 in footwear but my feet even got thinner.maybe people think I should be jumping around the place but I can't do that because it's not end game never will be in a way,I'll always have to keep an eye on it so my plan is good diet and hopefully 30mins fast walk most days of week.I do like my treats as well which I think if I deprived myself I would not have stuck it a week,I'm at 22weeks now,I can't even say it's a diet it's more lifestyle changes.

forestgirl

Ursus Horribilis wrote: »

The vast majority of people will never comment on someone's appearance if they've hairy chins or have piled on the pounds. They're negative things. But when someone who was heavy decides to lose weight and is looking better than they did, it is considered to be a good thing and a real achievement. Your self esteem must've taken some battering if you're getting so bothered by praise.

That never dawned on me before,maybe you're right

Rubberchikken

some people comment on anything. some are doing it in a good way and others are just insensitive.
i'd personally never comment on someone's size, no matter how thin/fat they were. i tend to go for the 'you're looking great' and leave it at that!
well done on losing weight for your health. it's so important to look after ourselves. it's not easy to lose weight but you succeeded so enjoy the health benefits it brings.
as for the comments, they'll stop as people get used to the new you. those that keep them up may be suffering from a little jealousy that you have such strong willpower so they're comments are best ignored.
take care

Faith

Oftentimes people are threatened by others losing weight, because it forces them to look at their own weight. Sometimes, people will try to drag you back down with them to make themselves feel better. If the comments are more "you're too scrawny" and not "you look great!", then that's a sign that's it's a reflection of their own insecurities. Irritating and hurtful as it is, you should try to brush it off and continue being proud of yourself for your excellent success in losing weight and keeping it off.

forestgirl

I suppose I do not expect people to remark me especially because I would never talk about it,thing is people ask exactly how much weight I'd lost and the truth is I actually do not have a clue because I asked not to be weighed until very recently.it is a hard road no doubt that's why this is it for me,this is a one time wonder.

Ursus Horribilis

Ah now, well that's going further than "you look great". If it was me, I'd probably retort with "You'll want to know what I had for breakfast next" or "Why do you want to know this?". It's hard to come back with an answer to those and it'd put them in their place.

Please don't let these people ruin your pride in your achievement. Anybody who has put on weight and then tried to lose it will understand exactly what you're going through. Try to look at this as a nine day wonder. When you reach a weight you're happy with - and manage to stay at it - people will forget that you were heavier. Hopefully in time you'll become less sensitive about this issue too and that people won't get in under your skin like they are at the moment.

LegacyUser

Forestgirl I'd kill for your problem. I've had a weight problem for most of my adult life and I'm struggling to lose any of it. It goes without saying that I hate how I look and I can only dream about being size 10 or 12 again. I'd strut around naked if I was that size! I have a horrible uncle who passes comments about my weight if I'm unlucky to find myself in his company. I would much rather be hearing about how much weight I'd lost than snide comments about how I've been eating biscuits again and that I'm thriving