Met a girl when on a J1 and I think about her all the time

baboo800

Please bear with me as this is my first serious post on boards and there is a bit of a backstory so that my emotions can be understood.

For the summer I went to work in Florida in Disney World. Being from Ireland it was quite a big deal as I had never been abroad on my own before. I grew up in a small town, where the population of the town and the greater area of the town is less than a thousand people.

I have always been quite shy, and have suffered in the past from anxiety and minor bouts of depression, which may be why I had never even kissed a girl before I went to Florida, let alone was still a virgin.

At work training I met a girl (A) and we started to hang out a lot. At a party she introduced me to her housemates, one of whom I thought was really attractive (B). Later that night I got a text from the girl (B) offering me a ride to work as we both worked in the same park. I became quite friendly with this girl but didn't want to tell her that I liked her. However, one of my housemates told me that the girl (B) had told him that she liked me.
One night, me and my friend were hanging out and we started talking about our "types" . She asked me what my type was and I then paused for ages trying to grow the courage to tell her that I liked her. After what felt like an eternity I eventually told her, and we kissed. We hung out a lot more, but the fact that I would soon be leaving hung over us. She was reluctant to do anything more as I was going to be leaving soon but we would snuggle a lot.
Fast forward to my last week, after my contract was finished I booked a cheap hotel and spent as much as time as possible with her. I told her that had I not been going home I would've asked her out on a date, to which she said she would've said yes. On the night before I left myself, this girl , girl A and a male friend were all hanging out in my hotel room. I went to the toilet,and when I came back, girl A and my male friend had left, and girl B was lying on the bed.She said that she wanted to have sex as this would be the last opportunity, which we had. She said that she was reluctant before as she I was virgin. She left the following morning and my last words to her were "I hope I'll get to see you again",to which she replied "you will"
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However, I'm home two weeks now, not only can I not stop thinking about her, I am constantly reminded of her by seeing little things throughout my day, e.g TV shows set in Boston (where she's from). Our only method of communication has been a few snapchats that we've sent to each other. I want to send her a message but can't think of anything other than 'what's up', which in my experience has led to nothing. She is the first girl that I have been attracted to for an extended period of time and really would like to have a relationship with her in the future. The problem is that I don't know how she feels about me now as I had no idea that she liked me.
Could you please give me some advise on how I can deal with this?

BabyE

<SNIP> No need to fully quote OP

No offence bruh but stop being such a hopeless romantic, its 2016 boyo, romance is dead. Anyway id say split tb realistic, its not gana happen, just take her as a notch on your belt and move on boyo.

dudara

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Rubberchikken

Hi op
It sounds like you had a great suer work experience and a lovely summer romance.
For now she'll be all ypu think about but, realistically, is there any chance of continuing this?
Keep in touch with her but in time you'll have to decide if meeting someone local might be easier.
Best of luck

SusieBlue

Take the experience and confidence gained by your relationship with this girl and put it towards meeting a girl here.
I know you really like her, and you should of course leave the door open for the future in the event that either of ye end up in the same country again.
But in the meantime, as soon as you feel you are ready, put your efforts into finding a similar connection with someone closer to home.
You sound very kind, respectful and thoughtful so you should have no problems once you work on your confidence. Best of luck!

baboo800

Rubberchikken wrote: »

Hi op
It sounds like you had a great suer work experience and a lovely summer romance.
For now she'll be all ypu think about but, realistically, is there any chance of continuing this?
Keep in touch with her but in time you'll have to decide if meeting someone local might be easier.

Thanks, I realise meeting someone local might be 'easier' but at the same time I've never felt this way about a girl before. Thankfully I'll be back to college next week so I'll have other things on my mind.

baboo800

WhiteRoses wrote: »

Take the experience and confidence gained by your relationship with this girl and put it towards meeting a girl here.
I know you really like her, and you should of course leave the door open for the future in the event that either of ye end up in the same country again.
But in the meantime, as soon as you feel you are ready, put your efforts into finding a similar connection with someone closer to home.
You sound very kind, respectful and thoughtful so you should have no problems once you work on your confidence. Best of luck!

Thank you, the last line means a lot to me