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  • 09-09-2016 1:40pm
    #1
    Isenguard
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 years, we were living together for a few years but recently moved out to save for a mortgage (no immediate plans)

    Both mid twenties, I would consider myself a nice person, fun, caring, attractive, independent. I can't help but feel like something is missing or feeling like there's more out there. I know relationships are hard but I hear peers talking about their partners and I just get this horrible feeling that I don't feel that way and wishing I could feel the same way about my partner.

    We have Been through a lot together, we fight a lot, there's always promise of change but It never happens. I know if I was reading this I would be thinking you should just break up but I don't know why I can't, I feel like I've attachment issues or something. I just want to be happy


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  • #2
    Soulseeker333
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 49 ✭Soulseeker333


    Hi,

    I went through something a bit like that last year. I felt like I was missing out on something in my relationship and wondered why my relationship was so different to how others described theirs. And if I'm honest why I never felt happy. I carried on regardless with my bouts of worry hitting me every couple of months. Then when we decided to stop renting and go down the mortgage route I ran for the hills. That gut feeling was too big to ignore when something as big as a mortgage was being decided upon. It was the hardest decision I made because there was nothing wrong per say it was just a feeling of things not being right. And of course there was the fear of losing what we had and experiencing the heartache of all that comes with that. It wasn't until a big decision had to be made that I acted on that feeling and we broke up.

    I wouldn't go breaking up on a whim but you have to explore this feeling and let him know what's going through your mind. My only regret is that I wasn't 100% honest with him. I never gave him the chance to allow me to discover what I needed to with him by my side out of fear of what he'd think about it. I don't regret my decision and I can say with complete honesty I am happy and that was something i constantly looked for in my relationship and something I only found by myself. It's over a year later and I'm on my own and happy (something I NEVER thought I was capable of). I spent my time making me happy and not looking to others to find it.

    Its true that very often the grass is greener but sometimes the grass isn't getting what it needs.


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