bitchy

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Just a quick one about an aquaintance.I wouldn't call her a friend although in one of my groups of friends.
I don't text her or hang out with her alone.I also don't bother to text her either.

Basically she is about 33,married etc but deems me too quiet to talk to so makes faces at other people and if talking to me makes no effort to communicate.
As all she does is make faces and act like a child, I don't go out of my way to be-friend her just be polite.

Thankfully only see her in group situations.
I myself think she is a bitch and should grow up.

Anyway keep doing what I am doing I guess or does anyone handle these type of people differently?

Thanks.

BetsyEllen

What do you mean she makes faces at other people?

ManOfMystery

What has she done to warrant being labelled a bitch, asides from this faces thing you're talking about (what does that mean anyway - is she sticking her tongue out at you?)?

Has she been rude, called you names, criticised you, or similar? If she's only quiet and not interacting very well, then have you considered she may have social anxiety or the like? Not everyone is a talker.

baby and crumble

If she's not a friend and you don't make an effort to talk to her, why should she do the same to you? Ok the making faces about you is a bit sad but it sounds like there might be two of you in it.

Rubberchikken

it's hard to know or understand why someone acts like you describe. she may be uncomfortable with some people/situation. you say she finds you quiet so doesn't communicate with you too much. maybe she hasn't gotten to know you and may read that from you.
if you'd like to get to know her better, then talk/text her. if not, let her be. i honestly don't think her behaviour makes her a 'bitch' (hate that word btw).

LegacyUser

Perhaps bitchy was wrong word, more like childish or bully tactics.

To be clear, I don't want to be v friendly with this person.
Yes, I am quiet so she makes faces at other people.Not at me.

She definitely is a talker I try to make effort with her but it's not nice way she acts.

I am v comfortable talking to others and I pretend I don't notice her making faces.I get it in work too cos I have the label as being quiet so ignore the faces and the looks.

Merkin

OP, I'm failing to see what your issue here is. Can you come back and clarify what the problem is and what type of advice you are looking for please? As far as I can surmise there is someone in your circle of acquaintances, and whom you have no wish to be friends with, that is rude to people.

LegacyUser

Hi,yeah that be it and how to deal with her.
I am just pretending not to notice.

Thanks.

Big Bag of Chips

She doesn't like you. She's not obliged to. You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. You don't like her either, though! The "making faces" things is a bit childish, and to be honest puts the other people in the group in an uncomfortable position. Although, if they like you and don't mind that you're a bit quiet then they are only going to think badly of her for openly showing her disdain for you.

Do you work with her? Or is it other people in work who "make faces" at you? I wonder how much of this is bad luck that you find these immature people where ever you go who make faces at you and seem put out by your presence? Or how much of it is you perceiving that that is how people think of you and you then see what you go looking for?

The acquaintance doesn't like you. You don't like her. If the group of friends means a lot to you you should just continue to socialise with them and avoid her. One thing I've always noticed is, in a group of people it's incredibly easy to avoid a specific person!

December2012

Ignore her. Only thing to do

LegacyUser

You're right dec12.

No,she does not work with me thankfully.
They don't make faces at me in work more at each other about me.They have copped on that I have noticed that as I kept looking at them so they do it less.

Know one does behind my back.She does it about everyone
She a youngish fiftyish.Plays sweet to your face and stabs you in the back when not looking.
She is one of those people who does nothing yet gets paid for it and has boss wrapped around her little finger.
She is nice and helpful if need something and is v friendly but definitely the bitchy one in office who has everyone on her side.
She even bitches to clients about certain staff.I've been in the room! So god knows what she saying about me!!