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Proposing without a ring

  • 06-09-2016 11:06am
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 149 ✭✭


    Digging up an old thread here, looking for a Bit of help myself.
    I'm going to take the plunge in the not to distant future. Initially I was going to buy the proper ring and go with that but I'm only 90% sure on what she would like. So, that said I guess it's the temporary option for me

    Will proposing with a temporary ring make the proposal less romantic? It seems strange setting the scene and trying to make the moment memorable only to propose with a €20 ring. I plan on doing it on a short holiday, the day before coming back and going shopping for the ring the next day.
    Any one who has been proposed to this way, did it take anything away from the proposal itself?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,339 ✭✭✭brophs


    GDK_11 wrote: »
    Digging up an old thread here, looking for a Bit of help myself.
    I'm going to take the plunge in the not to distant future. Initially I was going to buy the proper ring and go with that but I'm only 90% sure on what she would like. So, that said I guess it's the temporary option for me

    Will proposing with a temporary ring make the proposal less romantic? It seems strange setting the scene and trying to make the moment memorable only to propose with a €20 ring. I plan on doing it on a short holiday, the day before coming back and going shopping for the ring the next day.
    Any one who has been proposed to this way, did it take anything away from the proposal itself?
    Nope. My fiancée and I had discussed it and I'd always been open that, as someone without any sisters, fashion sense or even basic ability to appreciate jewellery, I'd be better off going with a temporary ring.

    I proposed 6 weeks ago or so and what I did was simply go to the jewellers I knew she wanted to get the ring in (Keane's in Cork) and spoke to one of the ladies who recommended a proposal ring, which they sold me. It cost me around €250 but they said that when I came in to buy the actual ring we could simply get a full credit to the engagement ring/a full refund on the cost if we couldn't find anything we liked when we wanted to buy from them.

    Anyway, we went away to West Cork for the night and I proposed with a fairly plain, solitaire, engagement style ring, albeit I knew she probably preferred a coloured stone (she settled on a ruby surrounded by diamonds in the end). We then went home the next morning to shop for the ring. Oddly, the exact ring she wanted happened to be available in store in the size she wanted, after spending the afternoon trying them on, so between proposing with the temporary ring and getting the engagement ring we only had around 24 hours. Dumb luck, tbf, but it worked out well. There's nothing unromantic about not having the actual ring. Picking it out together was a lovely way for us to round off the couple of days, followed by a party with my fiancée's family to announce it to all of them.

    I will say, my fiancée is very low maintenance and relaxed when it comes to this stuff so it might be different for others. Good luck. I'm sure your partner will love it.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    Mod Note: Posts moved to a new thread. GDK_11, when you bump an old thread with a new query, the majority of people won't realize it's an old thread and they will reply to the first post, not yours.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭mcgiggles


    Hi OP, my fiance did just that, we were on holidays and he proposed with a cheaper ring (which i still love!) I cried my eyes out and we proceeded to drink bubbly all the rest of the holiday and then he got the real ring when we came home! I loved it, had no issue with it! it absolutely took nothing from the romance! in that moment in time I didn't realise it was a "fake" but he told me then and I couldn't have cared less :) Some brides really want to do the whole ring shopping thing so this is a great way to both surprise her and let her enjoy the ring shopping experience aswell!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭mcgiggles


    plus.. 2 rings! winner :D;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,224 ✭✭✭mcgiggles


    Oh I have heard about jewellers doing that from other people who got a token ring initially!
    They'll sell you a proposal ring then take that price of that off the real deal!

    Good luck :)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭podgemonster


    GDK_11 wrote: »
    Digging up an old thread here, looking for a Bit of help myself.
    I'm going to take the plunge in the not to distant future. Initially I was going to buy the proper ring and go with that but I'm only 90% sure on what she would like. So, that said I guess it's the temporary option for me

    Will proposing with a temporary ring make the proposal less romantic? It seems strange setting the scene and trying to make the moment memorable only to propose with a €20 ring. I plan on doing it on a short holiday, the day before coming back and going shopping for the ring the next day.
    Any one who has been proposed to this way, did it take anything away from the proposal itself?

    Ya proposed with a €60 pandora ring. I think she sometimes prefers it to the real one due to the memories it evokes. We were campervaning around NZ at the time and I didn't fancy having anything valuable in my frazzled backpack.

    Didn't take away from it at all. Best of luck man.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 149 ✭✭GDK_11


    Thanks all for your responses, seems it shouldn't really matter in the grand scheme of things.
    Temporary ring it is and hopefully a nice holiday followed by her picking the ring when we get back.
    Well assuming she says yes that is ..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 530 ✭✭✭Placid_Casual


    I proposed without a ring whatsoever. We'd kind of casually discussed it beforehand and I knew she'd want to choose the ring herself. Tbh it never really occurred to me to use a substitute ring. I don't think it took away from the moment. It's all the other things that make it special - time, place etc. not a ring. I did it on holidays too and when we got back we made a day out of the ring shopping.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,846 ✭✭✭✭Liam McPoyle


    I proposed with no ring at all.

    I had booked flights to Antwerp and a hotel for the day after I popped the question so we could go ring shopping together.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,055 ✭✭✭snickerpuss


    We got engaged with no ring. My husband knew I'd want to choose it myself and he used a lovely little ceramic ring to propose with that cost less than €20. I ended up having it made by Voltaire and due to the stones I wanted it took over 2 months and I still wouldn't say it was at all unromantic!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,554 ✭✭✭valoren


    We went to Boston for a holiday and I planned to propose there.
    I didn't have a ring as I wanted my OH to choose the ring.
    I was planning on just asking but on the flight over they handed out Love Hearts.
    One of them said 'Marry Me'.
    I covertly pocketed the sweet and kept it until the proposal.
    OH chose the ring over there the following day which she loved :)
    She gave me a silver 'Love Heart' with the same design on it with MARRY ME when we married.

    http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/business/love-hearts-maker-searches-sweetest-10767602


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,240 ✭✭✭hussey


    I recently did this, I proposed to my fiance without a ring.
    She was delighted to be proposed to, we were flying to London so I had in my head we go ring shopping together then.
    She didn't mind in the slightest and was happy we both got to have a look.
    A few people we mentioned it to, were a bit surprised, but to be honest I couldn't really give a monkeys.
    The only people who should care is you and your partner.


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