When to tell him I like him?

LegacyUser

Hi everyone,

I met a guy off of tinder about a month ago. We'd been chatting a lot for a week or two prior to meeting up for the first time. We got on really well when we met up, no awkwardness or anything of the sort. We went home together that night.

We've met up maybe 4 or 5 times since then and I've really enjoyed myself with him, and I think he has with me but I'm not sure, hence why I am here!

I still have my tinder profile but I've not really been using it at all anymore. I had a look at his page and he's updated it very recently. Should I take this to mean that he's just looking for fun? I've really not been getting this impression from him in person, just the way he's been with me, and when we've met up it's not just been about the physical side of things at all.

I have found myself wanting more from this situation, but I think it's still too early to bring it up. On the other hand, I will drive myself crazy wondering if he sees me just as a fukc buddy or not. When I left the last time I saw him, he mentioned going out again sometime but that he is away this weekend.

I'd really appreciate any advice!

Ms Doubtfire1

I wouldn't think of the issue if he's still active on tinder at all. I think I would broaden my horizon and meet other people as well. The danger with the internet these days is that you can find pretty much everything about anyone if you know where to look.Don't fall in that trap. Ignorance is bliss in these cases, go and enjoy yourself, don't focus on one guy until you BOTH feel it's time to go and 'not see other people'. Let it grow naturally. And if it doesn't? well, it was never meant to be than in the first place.

kylith

If you like him and you think you'd like more then you'll just have to ask him what he's looking for. I know it can be an awkward conversation to have but there's only one way to find out what he's thinking.

Just say something like 'I like you a lot and I was wondering where you see this going.'

Mr. Incognito

I think you should have a chat to ensure you are on the same page

Tigger99

I dunno I think a month is far to early to have that discussion. Maybe he still has his profile up as he doesn't want to get too invested with you too early in case it doesn't go beyond a few dates.

SarahMollie

Depends on the tone of the chat really. Sussing him out in a light hearted way is good, sitting down for a serious talk about "your future" would likely freak him out.