How Do I Deal With This?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this as I'm a regular poster here.

This seems a bit silly really as I'm in my 40's so it seems more like something I should have been posting had Boards existed when I was 15!

I've known a girl for years (since school) who I've always had an inkling was somewhat interested in me. It wasn't really reciprocated and, as I was away and never really around much, I hardly spoke to her ever.

I've moved back home in the past few years and at some stage we must have bumped into each other and exchanged numbers. For me it was being friendly and we'd text every so often and have a chat over text. Still wasn't interested though every so often I'd find myself dropping her a text, mainly for the attention and that was something I stopped after a while as I realised I was being an a-hole doing this. After that we'd still chat every so often but I was really taking care to not give out a false impression or anything.

Fast forward to January this year and another friend organised a night out for my birthday which was good fun. My friend showed up with some of her friends and we ended up chatting away for a few hours and I really enjoyed it. I guess I saw her in a different light but I didn't really get around to following up with another meeting. We did chat much more though and got to know each other much better.

Her dad unfortunarly passed away a short time ago and she's, understandably, having a hard time dealing with it. As I didn't get to make it to the funeral I met up instead with her last week for an evening and we had a good chat and I think I managed to cheer her up and take her mind of things for a while. For my part I came away really wanting to see her again as I really enjoyed myself and loved her company.

I'm not sure what to do at this point. My thought is just to be supportive at the moment until some time passes and the sense of bereavement gets easier. I'm not sure what to do at the moment however or where to go. I'd appreciate hearing your thoughts.

s4uv3

Ask her out. Just go for it.
Let her decide if it's bad timing, but if you like her then there's no point in not letting her know

leggo

Yeah a lot of people appreciate life going on as normal after a death rather than being treated as a special case so maybe it's not too soon, and if it is and she's interested she'll probably say and you'll get clarity either way.

Dixie Chick

Aw... going un-reg because you fancy someone...sweet!

I think you should ask to meet again soon and if she is open to it, maybe set up something at the end of that date again. If she is agreeable then you know that she likes your company and it isnt coming on too strong while she is grieving.

Johngoose

Just make it sound casual.Ask her to go for a drink with you some night.

Ms Doubtfire1

umpf. 'some night' is the biggest downer a girl can here ever. it's non commital..do set a day lie...' want to go for a drink this friday? Or any other day that suits you?'..:rolleyes: