Am i gay/bi if i am into transvestites?

sky23

Hi i have always being more interested in transvestites I like women too but have never being with one. I was with transvestite girl for first time recently so i'm just wondering does this technically make bi? i am only into femininity though so not masculine guys so confused. also not relevant but i also like crossdressing too. either way i don't really care what it makes me people are more complicated than these labels but would like to hear opinions and maybe see if there are other guys same as me.

bonyn

Transvestites are men who dress in (what society deems) to be women's clothes. The motives for doing so vary, from transsexuality, acting out against societal norms, drag, or perhaps as a fetish (e.g. the feeling of nylon against their legs).

Transsexuals are women who were born with bodies which do not match their gender.

Neither gender or sexuality are binary so it is difficult to determine if you are straight or bi. A large part of it will come down to how your partner identifies. If he identifies as a cross-dressing man, you would be bi. If she identifies as a woman, you would continue to be labelled as straight.

I guess this highlights the danger of labels. In reality, neither gender nor sexuality are binary. Just do whatever and whomever makes you happy and don't worry about labelling yourself.

LLMMLL

I guess the reasons some men like transvestites or transsexuals varies a bit but I think for quite a few they are into cocks but not the rest of the man. Not really surprising since most porn is basically a close up of a dick going in and out of a vagina over and over again.

I don't think it makes you bi.

Caroline7

I thought that transvestites were predominately heterosexual .

L.Jenkins

Caroline7 wrote: »

I thought that transvestites were predominately heterosexual .

Not necessarily. The beauty of the LGBT community is, we are a diverse group. I'm sure Transvestites can be gay, straight or bi, male or female. Similarly, Cross dressers can also be diverse in their sexual preferences and gender.

Heebie

Here's another way of looking at that question: Does it really need to be asked?

You are you.

You like who you like.

You don't need a label if you're not comfortable with one... just be you. Sometime down the road you might find that particular labels suit, perhaps not. It's genuinely unimportant if your definition of self stems from what you feel, want & do, rather than from any pre-conceived notion foisted on you by others, by language, or by circumstance etc..

If you've identified that you seem to be attracted to transvestites (or MTF transexuals, or FTM transexuals, or.. whatever), then you already know this, and it's already part of who you are. Do you need to stick a label on it to make it neat & tidy?

Does putting a label on it then artificially limit you to being that? Does it make you feel "I'm this, and only this, and can't also be that." ?

FireFoxBoy

yes 100% it makes you bi. there is no cop-out. straight men don't sleep with transvestites or transsexuals. the ones that do are bi. believe me, if you meet bi people outside a sexual environment you will probably find you have a lot in common with them.

Annasopra

FireFoxBoy wrote: »

yes 100% it makes you bi. there is no cop-out. straight men don't sleep with transvestites or transsexuals. the ones that do are bi. believe me, if you meet bi people outside a sexual environment you will probably find you have a lot in common with them.

The world doesnt work that way that everyone fits neatly under a label. And yes I am sorry straight men do have relationships with trans male to female people.

JackTaylorFan

bonyn wrote: »

I guess this highlights the danger of labels. In reality, neither gender nor sexuality are binary. Just do whatever and whomever makes you happy and don't worry about labelling yourself.

Oh, I disagree: labels are important and good - if you get them right. Although, when you haven't got a clue what you are talking about, like OP, that's when it becomes problematic.

sky23 wrote: »

Hi i have always being more interested in transvestites I like women too but have never being with one. I was with transvestite girl for first time recently so i'm just wondering does this technically make bi? i am only into femininity though so not masculine guys so confused. also not relevant but i also like crossdressing too. either way i don't really care what it makes me people are more complicated than these labels but would like to hear opinions and maybe see if there are other guys same as me.

OP, as a transwoman, if you called me a transvestite - I'd probably slap you.

Advice: if you are interested in transwomen - do them the courtesy of getting educated instead of spouting this ignorant ****. Your mislabeling is borderline offensive.

Also, gay men are not attracted to me. I

Heebie

My advice: stop worrying about defining a label for yourself, and enjoy being with people you find attractive.
Someday you might decide a particular label fits, but don't go straining your brain over it.

suicide_circus

bonyn wrote: »

If she identifies as a woman, you would continue to be labelled as straight.

Not sure about that one. While a woman in a male body is a woman, it's a bit of a stretch to suggest that her male partner is straight while he has sex with a person who is physically male.

Annasopra

suicide_circus wrote: »

Not sure about that one. While a woman in a male body is a woman, it's a bit of a stretch to suggest that her male partner is straight while he has sex with a person who is physically male.

Mod
That is very much your personal opinion only and it is bordering being in breach of the charter. It's also quite dehumanising to consider only the sexual aspect of a relationship. Please consider the charter carefuly before posting here again. As always do not give mod feedback on thread.