Am I overthinking? What to do?

whattodo1

Hi just something thats going over and over in my head, I write here often as I feel ive no proper friends to talk to.

So my friends daughter has a party on saturday and my youngest son is invited hes 4, so my and this "friend" don't live to far from each other and it feels like Im only wanted when she needs something.

We haven't met up in ages even though I've tried a few times for a catch up with either oh im busy or no reply at all now im a grown women I dont need someone having a childish attitute.

so a couple of weeks ago she asked me to bake her daughters birthday cake as ive done from friends partys before and i txt a few days ago to see what the story was and i was told she would make it herself so I just left it at that.

The thing is she takes and takes and never sees what she is doing to people Im only realising now im being used, anything shes asked of me ive helped her out and I get zero in return.

So return to the party bit the party is at a certain time and it turned out ive to collect my partner from the train between the party id be gone a hour max, I didnt want my son to miss the party so After id offered her help etc with the party like an idiot, I asked would it be ok to leave him there for the hour until I collected my partner as parents do they drop kids off and collect.

I got a message saying so I can't do that and I said where the party is, is all enclosed and he will be ok.......I got a reply of im not watching other peoples kids its not my responsibility which shes probably right but ive looked after her child at a party also she never turned up to my sons party no cal no apology she was too busy clothes shopping so im going to have to bring my child with me now and he will have to miss it.

I'm so angry at the reply she just wants everything her way wants everythibg for her child but doesn't give a crap about anyone else.

Am I being unreasonable? All replies welcome sorry for the rant im.just so frustrated.

Big Bag of Chips

Would you want your son there? He's 4. He's not going to be bothered one way or another. You don't see her often, you don't meet up. Just phase her out. Shouldn't be too hard. And if she calls looking for something, you can be just as busy as she has been!

Sometimes people are busy, and often with kids things just take over and you realise it's weeks/months since you've met up with someone. I keep seeing those cheesy meme things on Facebook about friends who you don't see often but just catch up where you left off rtf... We all have friends like that, and we all have friends where it seems like an effort to stay in touch.

You don't have to be available to her, especially if it's putting you out, or making you feel used. As you say, you're a grown woman now. You don't need to be friends with the "mean girl" down the road.

And you can bet your car on it that there will be others who just drop the child with a "what time will I be back?" and she'll smile sweetly and give them the time! If you wanted to be really bitchy you could go along to the party, wait for the first few "droppers" and then get your bag and say, "I'll be back at 3". [Big sweet smile]!