Harassment

tonyheaney

I am indirectly being harassed by a person on Facebook. I will admit I'm a nobody he is a something or other.

I am at my wits end with I'm spreading rumors that are not true and because of his something or other status he getting brownie points and is left in the s hit. I have done nothing but he is jealous.

Host replies I am sailing here in agony not being able to defend myself

I need help

Thoie

Probably better in Personal Issues, but really, leave Facebook. Log out, and walk away.

Kings Inns or bust

As above, the legal route is the tort of defamation. You would need a solicitor.

livedadream

tonyheaney wrote: »

I am indirectly being harassed by a person on Facebook. I will admit I'm a nobody he is a something or other.

firstly nobody is a nobody, thats a terrible opinion to have of yourself. report to facebook.

block his account or delete yours.

tonyheaney wrote: »

I'm spreading rumors that are not true

stop spreading rumours. and dont get involved in the petty stuff.

tonyheaney wrote: »

Host replies I am sailing here in agony not being able to defend myself

I need help

i dont know who the host is? and what sailing has to do with it.

like i said report to facebook, block him so you dont see his posts. and if it gets to extreme delete your account.

https://www.facebook.com/help/116326365118751

...And Justice

tonyheaney wrote: »

I am indirectly being harassed by a person on Facebook. I will admit I'm a nobody he is a something or other.

I am at my wits end with I'm spreading rumors that are not true and because of his something or other status he getting brownie points and is left in the s hit. I have done nothing but he is jealous.

Host replies I am sailing here in agony not being able to defend myself

I need help

de-activate your account for 30 days, this removes all of your friends and posts forever, then if you want to sign up again do it and select the friends you want.

livedadream

...And Justice wrote: »

de-activate your account for 30 days, this removes all of your friends and posts forever, then if you want to sign up again do it and select the friends you want.

no it doesnt...

ive deactivated my account laods of times (exam time in particular i've had it shut down for more than three months once)

when i went back it was all still there...

...And Justice

livedadream wrote: »

no it doesnt...

ive deactivated my account laods of times (exam time in particular i've had it shut down for more than three months once)

when i went back it was all still there...

I had to do it as well everything and everyone was gone, no pictures, posts etc.. it was like signing up all over again. But it does look like they have changed it a bit since I did it

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intheclouds

Tony why are you spreading rumours and what rumours are you spreading?

Can you clarify your original post a bit? What is the nature of the harrassment?

I think it's the other guy that is spreading the rumours about Tony.

As above you can either block/ignore him, delete your account or, if you wish to escalate it further, incidents of a more serious nature can be reported to the Gardai/pursued in a defamation case.

Pat Mustard

intheclouds wrote: »

Tony why are you spreading rumours and what rumours are you spreading?

Look at the OP again. That's not what he wrote.

Pro Hoc Vice

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Look at the OP again. That's not what he wrote.

What the OP wrote, "I'm spreading rumors that are not true"

Squall Leonhart

Pro Hoc Vice wrote:

What the OP wrote, "I'm spreading rumors that are not true"

"I'm at my wits end with HIM spreading rumours" I'd imagine is the intent, just an autocorrect error on a phone.

Pro Hoc Vice

Squall Leonhart wrote: »

"I'm at my wits end with HIM spreading rumours" I'd imagine is the intent, just an autocorrect error on a phone.

I agree that his intention may have been to say something else, but the post is all over the place it's almost impossible to be sure what's going on.

My post was simply saying his exact words.

intheclouds

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Look at the OP again. That's not what he wrote.

Actually thats exactly what he wrote.

tonyheaney wrote: »

I'm spreading rumors that are not true and because of his something or other status he getting brownie points and is left in the s hit.

Pat Mustard

Pro Hoc Vice wrote: »

What the OP wrote, "I'm spreading rumors that are not true"

That's not all that he wrote though:

tonyheaney wrote: »

I am indirectly being harassed by a person on Facebook. I will admit I'm a nobody he is a something or other.

I am at my wits end with I'm spreading rumors that are not true

Take out "I'm", overlook the syntax errors and it seems likely that his problem is somebody else who is harassing him and spreading rumours.

Pro Hoc Vice

Pat Mustard wrote: »

That's not all that he wrote though:


Take out "I'm", overlook the syntax errors and it seems likely that his problem is somebody else who is harassing him and spreading rumours.

More than likely, but it is not what he wrote. It's so all over the place we have to guess what he is on about.

intheclouds

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Take out "I'm", overlook the syntax errors and it seems likely that his problem is somebody else who is harassing him and spreading rumours.

Rereading it he seems to be saying that he is at his wits end with the guy saying he (tony) is spreading rumours that are not true?

Its very hard to know exactly what he means tbh.

Amanda.ie

tonyheaney wrote: »

I am indirectly being harassed by a person on Facebook. I will admit I'm a nobody he is a something or other.

I am at my wits end with I'm spreading rumors that are not true and because of his something or other status he getting brownie points and is left in the s hit. I have done nothing but he is jealous.

Host replies I am sailing here in agony not being able to defend myself

I need help

He is the same as you on Facebook, same rules apply OP regardless of his position in real life.

I read this as he is spreading rumors about you ?

My advice is go to your local garda station with the messages etc as this is harassment.
I wouldn't normally say report this kind of thing but it seems like he thinks he can abuse anyone he feels like. There is not much the gardai can do but they can contact him to tell him to stop with the harassment.

Dont delete your FB because of him, just report him and block him.

Gerry T

Op, you mention exams, is that leaving cert or junior. If junior report to the school principal. They have a very strict policy on bullying. If LC then he may be out of your life soon.
This behaviour reflects poorly on him not you. And don't let this get to you, he's no more important than anyone and especially you.
Best to ignore him and just get on with your life. If someone mentions his posts, in your own words just calmy say hes a Walter mitty making up stories and your ignoring him.

tonyheaney

livedadream wrote: »

firstly nobody is a nobody, thats a terrible opinion to have of yourself. report to facebook.

block his account or delete yours.



stop spreading rumours. and dont get involved in the petty stuff.



i dont know who the host is? and what sailing has to do with it.

like i said report to facebook, block him so you dont see his posts. and if it gets to extreme delete your account.

https://www.facebook.com/help/116326365118751

Sorry my new PC think it knows English and auto corrected that before I knew lol I just now installed the Grammarly App. I can't block him from the group I own and he has his people in mine reporting to him. I have my personal profile locked and blocked though

tonyheaney

intheclouds wrote: »

Tony why are you spreading rumours and what rumours are you spreading?

Can you clarify your original post a bit? What is the nature of the harrassment?

basically I have my own website. It popular and its free and "BoB" also has a site up and he wants to make money. As my wife said to me the other day he is pissed that I can offer for free that what he wants to make money from. so from time to time he will pop a little-crooked finger in my direction and say I did something bad. It started with using my name, then on to my "Site Name" not its "ex-member" or "former member" "of another similar site" you know stuff like that.

The most recent made me post here on boards for advice because he told his members that and "Ex-Member" created a fake profile. One that doesn't exist. telling people I created it to harras a person to not going to his site which is completely untrue. and please excuse my bad language but this guy could turn his bull**** into gold bricks and come up smelling of roses. Total diva and spin doctor.

tonyheaney

Hi Mod can you pm me on an unrelated matter please thank you

Thoie

tonyheaney wrote: »

Sorry my new PC think it knows English and auto corrected that before I knew lol I just now installed the Grammarly App. I can't block him from the group I own and he has his people in mine reporting to him. I have my personal profile locked and blocked though

It really doesn't sound worth it. Will anyone actually die in real life if you don't log into Facebook for a few weeks?

tonyheaney

Yakov P. Golyadkin wrote: »

I think it's the other guy that is spreading the rumours about Tony.

As above you can either block/ignore him, delete your account or, if you wish to escalate it further, incidents of a more serious nature can be reported to the Gardai/pursued in a defamation case.

took your advice and i was told its a civil matter and not for Gardai :mad::(

Stheno

tonyheaney wrote: »

took your advice and i was told its a civil matter and not for Gardai :mad::(

Well in fairness it sounds like a squabble online.

I'd just stay off facebook, it's not as if it's going to lose you money if what you say that he is making money and your site is free is correct

tonyheaney

Pro Hoc Vice wrote: »

What the OP wrote, "I'm spreading rumors that are not true"

sorry that's a misquote on my behalf. I was and still am upset by the whole mess that my spelling and grasp of the English language has gone to hell. Sorry my bad, sorry what i meant to say is "bob" has been informing people that I'm spreading rumors, to which is untrue.

tonyheaney

Squall Leonhart wrote: »

"I'm at my wits end with HIM spreading rumours" I'd imagine is the intent, just an autocorrect error on a phone.

I hate technology I really do. It won't let me edit my original post.

Here is revised version: Sorry, that's a misquote on my behalf. I was and still am upset by the whole mess that my spelling and grasp of the English language has gone to hell. Sorry, my bad, sorry what I meant to say is "bob" has been informing people that I'm spreading rumors, to which is untrue.

tonyheaney

Hi, all I can't seem to edit my Original Post. I just went away to get a hammer and its sitting here on my desk on my PC and if autocorrect acts up the Dam PCs getting it right in the hard Drive....


So without the syntax errors and spelling mistakes here goes again I hope.

Harassment -

I am being indirectly harassed by a person on Facebook who I will call "BoB.

<Mod: information which might identify parties deleted>

I was and I still am at my wits end with "BoB" actions of spreading rumors that are not true about me, (and because of his something or another status) when he points his wicked finger people believe him.

So when he gets the crowds riled up he getting brownie points and I get left in the s hit. I have done nothing. But he is jealous that what I do is free and for fun while what he does is similar, is done for profit and fame and mostly Not free.


I am unable to defend myself, I can't tell people the truth because he has blocked me from his group. He has blocked id say 1000 members who defended me. Deleted Mine and their earlier comments and anyone else's who defined me so no one knows he is in the wrong and I am in the right.

So without any way to defend myself, his members all think he craps gold and is the nicest person in the world while many know what he is like and he convinces them I am the baddie.

I tried defending myself on my group but while the members I have rallied around me to offer comfort and support many said they could do without the drama.

I was asked to continue doing what I do but to keep the drama of me and him out of the group. They are my members so I out of respect honor their wishes I have kept my group "BoB" free and they enjoy my group now better than before.


But when you throw enough **** it sticks.

I hope that clarifies things let me know if there's anything you don't understand and if you too think all this is too much drama please leave it to others to advise me. I do appcrate your help and support I really do and I may be far too sensitive then I need to be.

Stheno

tonyheaney wrote: »

Hi, all I can't seem to edit my Original Post. I just went away to get a hammer and its sitting here on my desk on my PC and if autocorrect acts up the Dam PCs getting it right in the hard Drive....


So without the syntax errors and spelling mistakes here goes again I hope.

Harassment -

I am being indirectly harassed by a person on Facebook who I will call "BoB.

<Mod: information which might identify parties deleted>

I was and I still am at my wits end with "BoB" actions of spreading rumors that are not true about me, (and because of his something or another status) when he points his wicked finger people believe him.

So when he gets the crowds riled up he getting brownie points and I get left in the s hit. I have done nothing. But he is jealous that what I do is free and for fun while what he does is similar, is done for profit and fame and mostly Not free.


I am unable to defend myself, I can't tell people the truth because he has blocked me from his group. He has blocked id say 1000 members who defended me. Deleted Mine and their earlier comments and anyone else's who defined me so no one knows he is in the wrong and I am in the right.

So without any way to defend myself, his members all think he craps gold and is the nicest person in the world while many know what he is like and he convinces them I am the baddie.

I tried defending myself on my group but while the members I have rallied around me to offer comfort and support many said they could do without the drama.

I was asked to continue doing what I do but to keep the drama of me and him out of the group. They are my members so I out of respect honor their wishes I have kept my group "BoB" free and they enjoy my group now better than before.


But when you throw enough **** it sticks.

I hope that clarifies things let me know if there's anything you don't understand and if you too think all this is too much drama please leave it to others to advise me. I do appcrate your help and support I really do and I may be far too sensitive then I need to be.

Seriously shut down your group and leave it off facebook.

tonyheaney

Stheno wrote: »

Seriously shut down your group and leave it off facebook.

I have 6000 members they enjoy the group, Not fair to them really. I really do enjoy. If i shut he wins and i lose.

Big Nasty

What age group are you and your nemeses in OP?

Stheno

tonyheaney wrote: »

I have 6000 members they enjoy the group, Not fair to them really. I really do enjoy. If i shut he wins and i lose.

Well then tbh, your best bet is to seek legal advice from a solicitor and if you pursue it be prepared to pay a fortune to take it to court I'd imagine.

tonyheaney

Big Nasty wrote: »

What age group are you and your nemeses in OP?

Im 40 his is 50ish I think

And yes I know adults being childish

Thoie

Seriously, this will drive you insane if you don't step away. The Facebook group can manage without you for a while - tell them you're going on holidays for a while if you really feel the need to say anything. Don't announce you're "taking a break" or anything like that, just state you won't be available for a few weeks.

Your only other option is to hire a solicitor, and that's a lot of money to spend on something that is a hobby for you, with no guarantee that it will improve things.

As the song says, You've got to know when to hold 'em, Know when to fold 'em, Know when to walk away, And know when to run.

For your own sanity, this is the time to walk away for a while.

nuac

Mod
Two middle aged people!. I thought ye were teenagers

Take up Bridge. I hear the rows there are much better

Meanwhile any more legal points re Facebool?

intheclouds

If youre an ex member of his group - how do you know what he is saying about you?

Cant you just not pay attention to things he says?

tonyheaney

thanks to all who helped. Mod close the thread I got my answer thank you

nuac

Mod
Thread closed at OP's request