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Should I Stay Or Should I Go

  • 30-07-2016 9:01am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Going unreg for this.

    In respect of other issues I've seen on here it seems pretty mundane but I can't think of anywhere else to ask for advice.

    I met this girl online and we've been seeing each other for the last 2 months. She's absolutely amazing and we have loads in common. What confuses me is that we've only been out together like 5 times in the last 2 months.

    When it comes to chatting by phone or text I get the sense that she isn't all that interested in making plans to meet up again. I don't constantly hound her on the phone or text her, we both work full time and I totally get that there are days where you are tired and just want to veg on the sofa or get some sleep.

    When we're out I get the vibes that she really likes me too. On our dates we've gone to the usual, movies, dinner, walked along the strand, one of them we spend the whole day hanging out. We kissed each time (i don't know how much that has to do with things) and sit cuddled up.

    I text her on Monday and asked her if she was busy Thursday of Friday night that I'd like to see her before I go on holidays and she only text me back this morning saying she forgot to text me back. I've started to wonder, am I just waiting around for something that will never happen. The mixed signals I get are confusing me. I keep asking myself:

    Is she interested in me the same way I am about her?

    Am I doing / not doing something that's making her keep her distance?

    Should I tell her how much I like her or is it far too early?


Comments

  • #2
    Gannicus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,736 ✭✭✭Gannicus


    Smitten And Confused wrote: »
    Am I doing / not doing something that's making her keep her distance?

    Without more info that's a very hard question to answer, do you know if you have a history of coming on too strong or the opposite, have you walls up from the get go. Based on your following question I'm of the opinion that its the former. You're gonna need to look introspectively on this and think about what if anything she's told you about passed relationships.
    Smitten And Confused wrote: »
    Should I tell her how much I like her or is it far too early?

    Maybe not until the next time you actually go on a date. Test put the water. If you feel like she is very keen on you when your together and she seems to be from what you've told us, then approach the subject. Just be prepared for either answer. If you are going to do this then maybe wait until the end of the date so that if she says no that it doesn't spoil the rest of the date or make it awkward if you're at dinner or something.


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