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Long Distance Relationships - Advice?

  • 27-07-2016 08:37PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    Just said I'd post a thread here regarding long distance relationships, whether they work and how to make them work.

    I'm 18, finished the Leaving Cert in June, as did my girlfriend of 17 months. We both attended the same school, live quite close and can meet up quite frequently. It's my first proper relationship, and I'm madly in love with her, to be quite honest. I go out of my way to make and keep her happy with romantic gestures and there isn't anything I can think of that I'd rather than to be with her. It's all very innocent - no sex etc. and I'm perfectly fine with that, everything is going smoothly and we're very happy.

    However, the prospect of college looms, and while she plans to study here in our hometown, I hope to study in a college 300km from home. We haven't seriously discussed the idea of the distance yet. I could probably make it home every second weekend or so, if not every weekend itself. I don't want it to end, and I don't feel that she does either.

    Basically the message of this post is simple; can they work, and how? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.


Comments

  • #2
    Your Face
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭Your Face


    In my experience - no.


  • #3
    Jan Laco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 284 ✭✭Jan Laco


    I spent a year of seeing my girlfriend for a weekend once a month and much further afield. One and a half years later we live with eachother.

    It's going to take some flexibility on both people. We managed to get jobs in our fields of work. What I would say is, you should concentrate on what you want to study and you shouldnt deviate from that to make the relationship easier.

    I would concentrate on the studies, if she is the right girl for you, you will survive the distance. It's not really 3 years if you count all the holiday time in between semesters anyway?


  • #4
    Hmm_Messiah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,964 ✭✭✭Hmm_Messiah


    my other half lives 8 thousand KM away

    So can they work ? yip
    Is it easy ? Nope


    Also you are very young with great new experiences ahead. It would all depend on your attitude and commitment, also whether your 17 month relationship is a sweet childhood one or something that can grow as you become adults.

    With concentration on study, and meeting during weeks off etc., and commitments to co0mmunicatign - yes it could work. But ye should talk about it now, rather than getting your college places and those weeks of excitement being bogged down in worry and frustrations
    best of luck


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