Tough times - again

LegacyUser

I'm struggling lately, really struggling.There's a long list of crappy things going on, but just to focus on one, having issues around friendships. A number of years ago I found myself almost friendless, my lifelong friends having settled down or moved away. I went to huge efforts to increase my circle of friends, and had a fantastic social life for years, but now, i find myself back at square one again, and I feel like I haven't the energy to do it all again.

I also feel like those remaining friends are not at all reliable, constantly cancelling, and only seeing me when it 'suits'. Honestly this makes me feel lousy so I avoid making any plans. But then I have feck all to do! Tbh being on my own doesn't bother me that much, but I'm concerned about going down a route of being on my own too much.

So, I dunno, cut loose the friends that aren't much use? Make the effort to get out there? thoughts?

Ally Dick

I've just hit 50 and I've decided that hobbies and interests are the future, and friends are only occasional. You should join a gym or a club of some sort I think

LegacyUser

Thanks Ally-yep I have hobbies and they do keep my fairly busy. It just makes ya think, when ya find yourself in this situation again...is it me? Is it something I'm doing? Or did we just outgrow the friendships