Can I save my relationship.

LegacyUser

My girlfriend of 8 years has just told me that the spark is gone and she sees me as a best friend now.

I'm still reeling from this and don't know what to do.

Is this the end or is there a way back from this.

She has also described as feeling numb lately and just wants to sleep all the time and has no motivation to do anything, although she is still able to work.
This sounds like depression to me, are they two seperate issues or connected.

Thanks

Sapphire

I understand why you'd love to think that she is suffering an illness that is making her lethargic about your relationship. Maybe she is, maybe she is not, but for the moment you have to take her at her word about how she is feeling about you. If she gets a diagnosis down the line, it still might change nothing in terms of her feelings.

I'm sorry, breakups suck. Be kind to yourself for a while.

fungun

Bestfriend99 wrote: »

She has also described as feeling numb lately and just wants to sleep all the time and has no motivation to do anything, although she is still able to work.
This sounds like depression to me, are they two seperate issues or connected.

Whether related or not, it sounds like she doesnt have the motivation for anything, including you. Thats not nice to hear. I think its reasonable to suggest to her that the two might be connected and that maybe she should see someone, and that perhaps you should postpone any major decisions until that point.

LegacyUser

she ended the relationship today anyway. needless to say im feeling fairly low and upset.

Keane2baMused

The old cliché but time is a healer.

You will at some point be glad she let you go, rather than staying with you when she wasn't happy. You deserve more for your future than that.

It's OK to be sad!