Need some advise

Notorioux

Hi guys I am looking for some helpful advice about the guy I met through dating/hook up site. I met this guy for about a year now. He's bi and with a girlfriend. He really likes me and I really like him as well, but he can't have a relationship with me, because of the fact that he has a girlfriend. We are always having an amazing sex everytime we meet. The thing is I want to have a relationship and to be with someone than just sex. Should I just let him chose or completely cut him off even it's difficult?

baby and crumble

Does the girlfriend know about you? I'd steer well shot of a man in a relationship tbh.

Notorioux

baby and crumble wrote: »

Does the girlfriend know about you? I'd steer well shot of a man in a relationship tbh.

Nope, she don't know anything about me at all. 😢 It's really difficult to stay away from him. It's also annoying that I am always attracting the married ones or the ones that has a girlfriend.

baby and crumble

Notorioux wrote: »

Nope, she don't know anything about me at all. 😢 It's really difficult to stay away from him. It's also annoying that I am always attracting the married ones or the ones that has a girlfriend.

Seriously man, it's not worth the trouble. He's obviously not going to end it with her. You're the extra, the bit on the side he can have if he fancies it. Go cold turkey if you have to.

L1011

Stop pursuing it as a relationship. If you have no problem with - and can accept it* as just sex, that's OK but if not, drop it. There is a chance, no matter what you do, that it'll all fall apart and he'll come over entirely to being gay - I've experienced that - but don't expect that he'll necessarily want you then either.

*both from your own side, and from realising you're intruding in a relationship.

Ten of Swords

Notorioux wrote: »

Should I just let him chose

Is he out as bisexual or not? The likelihood of him choosing you over his girlfriend is slim if he's out and none if he's not.

You can try but you'll be disappointed.

Notorioux

baby and crumble wrote: »

Seriously man, it's not worth the trouble. He's obviously not going to end it with her. You're the extra, the bit on the side he can have if he fancies it. Go cold turkey if you have to.

I guess youre right. Im starting to wonder if all bisexual men do think to gay men as the extra or forever will be number 2.

Notorioux

Ten of Swords wrote: »

Is he out as bisexual or not? The likelihood of him choosing you over his girlfriend is slim if he's out and none if he's not.

You can try but you'll be disappointed.

I never ask but i dont think so at all.

Annasopra

Notorioux wrote: »

I guess youre right. Im starting to wonder if all bisexual men do think to gay men as the extra or forever will be number 2.

Just cause this guy is doing what hes doing please don't make lazy assumptions that all bi men are the same.

CdeC

In reality he is cheating on his girlfriend with you. Even if he left her it is not a good start to a relationship. If you want a more love based scenario I suggest ditching him and find someone single

StyleKillah

What a dirt bag! And honestly if he did break up with his GF, do you honestly think you could trust him considering he was cheating on her with you? Who's to say he's not gonna cheat on you with someone else.