Just need someone to talk to

LegacyUser

Hi.

I'm having a tough time of things at the moment. I have a lot going on in my personal life and I feel like I have nobody to talk to about it. Work is ****, money is tight and my partner is getting less and less supportive in every way he can.

I know I sound as if I think the world is out to get me but I can appreciate the good things I have too. I have a good family, and my parents in law are fantastic. I'm lucky to even have a job. My son is my pride and joy. And I have a roof over my head.

Basically I would pour my heart out here online but a lot of my situation is very specific, and I don't want to be recognised and people I know knowing the extent of the problems. I can't speak to my parents because as supportive as they are, they are extremely judgemental and don't forget anything. I've spoken to my sister about some things, and although she is less judgemental than my parents she still isn't completely impartial and I feel like I have to keep smiling, lying and pretending everything is okay when it's not. I have three close friends, all of who have moved away in the past couple of years. And although I keep in contact with them it's hard to have a heart to heart over text messages and phonecalls. And when we only get so see each other every few months because of our different lifestyles and schedues, I want to have a good time with them and not turn the evening into doom and gloom spilling all my problems.

I'm crying myself to sleep some nights because I'm just not happy, but there isn't really anything I can change at the moment to make things easier or better. I don't have the time or money for counselling but I know that bottling everything up is making things worse and it's not sustainable. I don't know what I'm asking I just needed to share some of what's going on, with somebody.

HS3

Can you break things down one by one yourself..maybe make a list of the things that are troubling you and try and see what ones you can deal with now and start working on them? Sounds very simple, but without knowing what you're talking about, its the best I could suggest. It might help to feel you're gaining some control and stop everything feeling overwhelming?

Augme

You could try look for English/American based advice websites. You'll be less likely to get spotted then. Or you could just come back in a week and write your story but change some details.

LostinKildare

Would you consider ringing Samaritans? 116 123. It's free, anonymous, and confidential. You can speak freely and be as specific as you like.

KikiDee

Hey OP,

Would you maybe speak with your employers to see if they have some sort of EAP scheme? This would allow you free counselling sessions but also allows for just a chat over the phone with someone. It may help?