Deeds on house

Guest365

Hi
Just looking for a bit of perspective and outside opinions please.
Myself and husband moved into his former marital home late last year (was rented out since we got married) following a major renovation.
He was married before and it ended very acrimoniously. He got custody of the children who are now grown up. His son is living with us. I have a great relationship with both of them. I own my own house which is rented out. We have a very good relationship and are both very happy. He is extremely generous and following my redundancy paid for everything and would not let me touch my redundancy payment. He's well paid and "we"'are comfortable. I'm working again now but he still insists on paying for everything. Literally everything. Now that im working I suggested paying half the mortgage (which isn't huge). He wouldn't hear of it and looked very uncomfortable when I brought it up. Alarm bells started to ring.
It has now come to light that he doesn't want to put my name on the deeds of the house. I need to preface this by saying that before we moved in I obviously never contributed to the house as I never lived there - he paid for the entire renovation and has been paying for everything since (apart from groceries and day to day stuff).
As far as I'm concerned this house will be left to his two children (I/we don't have children) upon our deaths so I'm not trying to claim it but all I want, for the sake of my security, is to have my name on the deeds?
Am I'm being unreasonable? He says he is leaving me the house in his will but won't put my name on the deeds as he's afraid of being burnt again.
Needless to say I'm extremely hurt.
Legally I feel like I'm in a very precarious position. I now don't feel like this is my home which is horrible. We married kinda late in life and I was always financially independent so am feeling very uneasy.
Thoughts?

Munstermissy

Sorry but are you not contradicting yourself there. In one breath you say you don't want the house and for your husband to leave it to his sons and in the next breath you want your name on the deeds! What does it matter if you don't want it. What about your own house? Are you going to put your husband on the deeds?

Guest365

I know it probably sounds a bit contradictory - I would happily put his name on the deeds of my house - he doesn't want that. He said that it was "mine". I thought when you got married that there was no yours/mine.
I suppose I just want security. I just didn't think it was advisable for anyone to live in a home that someone owned 100% completely. It just make me feel vulnerable.
I'm probably not explaining myself very well.

L1011

We have rather strict protections on marital homes in Ireland regardless of the name on the deeds, and separately you own another house - you're not being left vulnerable in any way.

FortySeven

Just by living in the house you have a claim on it. You have the weight of the law behind you. Full security.

I can see where he is coming from. He probably feels the need for security too. (Not that he has any under family law) You have another house, does he?

I would leave well enough alone. He sounds like a decent man.

nuac

Mod

You do realise that this is a public forum.? You have posted information which may identify you or your husband

Anyhow it is contrary to forum rules to give legal advice. Thread closed