My boyfriend is exhausted from work and I barely see him

Veru

[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]My boyfriend (we are both in high school) is a paperboy for his family newspaper distribution company and goes through 10-12 hour workdays every day anywhere from 10 PM-11 AM. He then sleeps as soon as he gets home, usually until 3-5 PM. It was not always like this, as the company only recently got started at the beginning of summer. He claims that things will calm down at the end of August. We've only been dating for about three months, but we've been close friends for maybe five, and I've known him for about a year.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]I see him maybe once or twice a week for a couple hours at a time, and during that time, he's always exhausted. He sleeps whenever given the chance (i.e. on the couch when I'm trying to talk to him) and he's never very present in conversation. He also has ADHD, but I don't know much about it. I feel like it would be good to talk to him about this but it's a sensitive subject. When I text him and ask how he's doing, he never carries the conversation either, or other times he just won't make any sense. For example, he answered a text several hours after I sent it, and he apologized. I said it was fine, and he began to question me as if I was claiming something preposterous. I asked him if he was okay, and he responded, "Okay, if you say so." Sometimes I can tell that he's straight delirious.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]My friends and I even threw a birthday party for him yesterday (June 27) and he left without telling anyone an hour into the party. We walked to his house and found him sleeping. He just told us, "I wanted to sleep." So we left and hung out without him. I understand his situation, but this frustrated me very much, as I put a lot of effort into planning the party.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]Before he started working so vigorously, we saw each other often, took walks and talked together for hours, and just really cherished being with the other person. He was very considerate and attentive. He's still the same person, just very diminished with tiredness.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]I've told him several times that this isn't healthy for him, but he just gets frustrated and tells me there's no solution, since he's working to support his family. The way he's treating his body worries me very much and I'm afraid of how this'll complicate in future months.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]I'm very extroverted and see my friends almost daily, but I miss him often. I also struggle with abandonment issues (rooted in my parents divorcing when I was very young) and I have to keep reminding myself that he's only not seeing me because of work. This causes me so much anxiety, I've thought about breaking up with him several times, but it seems very unjustified.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]I don't know how to better the situation.[/font]
[font=Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif]tl;dr: Boyfriend constantly exhausted from working all night as a paperboy and he is hurting himself (emotionly+physically), me and our friends (emotionally). I would greatly appreciate any available advice or thoughts.[/font]

squonk

OP, I think you either take him at his word or you walk. You're pretty young but really 6-8 weeks isn't that long to wait for things to sort themselves out on his end. If they don't of course then you'll have to reconsider things anyway.

If you were in a long term relationship and this became an issue it'd be one thing but you're both young and haven't been going out long either. I'd say he's not really in a place to be in a relationship right now.

You have to decide for yurself, is this what you want and if it is then give him the few weeks to try and get things sorted out. Otherwise, you need to end things.