Encounter with ex today

TheFitz13

So today, I bumped into a guy I used to talk to (in that way).
I started talking to him right after I got out of a year and a half relationship and to be honest, I felt as if he was a rebound. However when things ended I was devastated. I got over it but to this day I still miss him more than the guy I was with for a year and a half.

However when I bumped into him today, as he approached me I LITERALLY felt my stomach drop, my heart beated like it never has before and I could bearly breath.. I could bearly make out a sentence! After our awkward conversation we parted ways and I continued to feel that way.

I have no reason for posting this, I just felt I needed to write this, I'm still kinda upset. Sorry if this doesn't belong here

Ken.

Mod-moved to PI from AH. Please read the local charter before posting.

ToddyDoody

Oooow read that wrong.

I've had this, i think, but I was 18. Relationships very often lead to trouble I find, but that's just me.

The stomach drop reaction isn't much to go on in my opinion. I like to try and kill it and see how it fares then following a good robust attempt. So say you feel it's based on being unavailable that you're getting such a reaction. Make yourself perfectly available, now how does it fare? Maybe it's convenience. Then maybe sacrifice it for a few good books and see how that goes. if it dies easily it wasn't something to return to. If it doesn't, maybe there's something there.

This is kindof subversive maybe but that seems to be the world these days.

Dial Hard

TheFitz13 wrote: »

So today, I bumped into a guy I used to talk to (in that way).

I'm confused. Did you actually go out with this guy or just talk to him?

TheFitz13

So just to update, I walked past him
Today, brief encounter, gave him a big hug. He then told me he would see me in a certain area, he went to that certain area later on during the day as he said he would and I ended up seeing him with another guy. Ah well....

Dial Hard

TheFitz13 wrote:

So just to update, I walked past him Today, brief encounter, gave him a big hug. He then told me he would see me in a certain area, he went to that certain area later on during the day as he said he would and I ended up seeing him with another guy. Ah well....

Your posts are seriously confusing, OP. Can you clarify whether ever actually had a romantic relationship with this guy? Because if you didn't, he's not your ex and if you saw him kissing another man (which, again, isn't at all clear from your post) then it sounds like you seriously misjudged the "talks" you had with him.

Either way, I'm not really sure what the issue is here, tbh.

This is all very confusing.

There is no inclination that you and he were an item. From what you've said, you used to "talk", but nothing more about being a couple. If I'm right in this, then he's not an ex.

Ursus Horribilis

I spotted this thread in After Hours last week and it looks like it was moved here, minus most of the comments.

Sapphire

That butterflies feeling is common when you meet up with an ex unexpectedly or when you meet a crush from the past. I've even occasionally felt it when I know I've moved on and no longer have feelings for an ex, so I've put it down to the fact its just wonky chemistry and is no reflection of your current feelings for someone.

Don't let it upset you.

Diemos

TheFitz13 wrote: »

So today, I bumped into a guy I used to talk to (in that way).

Why can't you just say you had sex with him?

Just read and reread Sapphires post above.

SarahMollie

Dial Hard wrote: »

I'm confused. Did you actually go out with this guy or just talk to him?

"talking" is young person speak for getting with each other, but falls short of a full relationship.