Should I ask my ex for concert tickets?

ItsJustLaura

Hey there! Me and my ex broke up a few months ago because he was cheating on me. He had bought me tickets for my bday for a concert that is on soon that I really want to go to. Is it cheeky for me to ask for them or should I get them from him? At the time of the breakup he said I could have them. He's not going to use them so if I don't have them they'll just go to waste but don't know what to do?

Silverfish

Don't ask, don't get.

It's cheeky but if he's already bought them, not going to use them, and you've broken up, it won't matter what he thinks. He'll either say yes or no.

ItsJustLaura

Silverfish wrote: »

Don't ask, don't get.

It's cheeky but if he's already bought them, not going to use them, and you've broken up, it won't matter what he thinks. He'll either say yes or no.

He treated me like absolute **** hence why I'm like **** you, I want the tickets. I feel bad asking but **** him

I'd tell you to **** off to be fair

Tilly

He might have sold them. I wouldn't ask for them but that's just me.

m'lady

If I was treated badly as you were then no way in hell would I ask him.. Maybe it's me but I wouldn't give him the satisfaction or the chance to say no.

punisher5112

OP forget about the tickets and the fool. Move on you can always find tickets online.

Do not ask because you know well he will want want in return. Stay clear move on.

suicide_circus

Jesus have a bit if self respect.

The guy cheated on you and now your gonna beg for concert tickets?

How old are you?

Ursus Horribilis

No, I think you should cut your losses on this one. I read your other thread at the time and got the impression from that that your ex is someone you should walk away from and never look back. He doesn't seem to be the sort of person who'll hand over the tickets and be nice about it. You don't know what you could be unleashing if you ask. Why give him the satisfaction of having him know he has something you now want? I also hope it's not an excuse to get in touch with him again.

ItsJustLaura

I know if I ask he will give them to me, it was discussed twice since we broke up but just never got round to actually getting them. Still unsure what to do, I feel a bit cheeky and rude if I do do it

Ursus Horribilis

It looks like you're determined to have them. So why not just ask then but be prepared for an answer/consequences you don't want. Personally I'd not ask but this seems to have been an ongoing topic of discussion between you.

suicide_circus

ItsJustLaura wrote: »

I know if I ask he will give them to me, it was discussed twice since we broke up but just never got round to actually getting them. Still unsure what to do, I feel a bit cheeky and rude if I do do it

I'd be less worried about appearing cheeky and rude than I would about appearing sad and desperate

ItsJustLaura

Wow. No need to be so harsh

Ursus Horribilis

Maybe you don't like the wording of what people have said but I agree with them. Why didn't you take them when they were offered to you -twice. Why the sudden urge to get your hands on the tickets when you were refusing all the way along?

If it was me, I'd not ask. The guy treated you very badly but now the relationship is over. If you go back looking for the tickets, you're on the back foot. You are coming to him, cap in hand, begging bowl to the fore etc. etc.

njs030

Why didn't you take them when they were offered?

ItsJustLaura

I did say yes to them when they were offered but he didn't have them at the time and we haven't been in contact since so I didn't have a chance to get them

milehip

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I'd tell you to **** off to be fair

To be fair I dont think you're her type.

OP if you really want to go,ask, but ask yourself is it worth getting in touch with him again for them?

suicide_circus

ItsJustLaura wrote: »

Wow. No need to be so harsh

Sorry but come on now, it does come across as a bit tragic.

forgodssake

Forget him and forget the tickets

Big Bag of Chips

Is there anyone who could get them for you? A mutual friend? Someone who might go with you? I'd get them ask him saying something like "Laura" says you have tickets for us for such-and-such. Sure give them to me, and I'll pass them on".

Otherwise, I'd just buy my own tickets, if they're still available. They probably won't go to waste, he'll sell them or give them to someone, and if they do go to waste, it's his money that's being wasted.

Augme

Ask for them. Who gives a **** if you look sad and desperate etc? I find people who worry about what other people think of them are more sad and desperate.

kylith

Just send a text saying 'can I pick up those tickets from you on X-day'. He might say yes, he might say no, but if you don't ask you don't get.

Surely you're better off just cutting contact with him 100%? They're just tickets, that's all.

nikkibikki

You could be opening up a can of worms by starting communications again.

LegacyUser

If someone cheated on me, I wouldn't lower myself by asking them for the time of day.

inforfun

I would sooner pay a tout 10x the value of a ticket than go beg my ex for a couple of tickets.

Emme

OP, you could send him a text that goes:
"Hi X, if you still want to let me have the tickets for Y gig please let me know and you can pop them in an envelope and send them to me at Z address. Thanks."

Or you could get your own tickets if they're still on sale. If there's any way of getting the tickets at all yourself I'd do that rather than ask him. If they're sold out then fair enough, ask him.

milehip

milehip wrote:

To be fair I dont think you're her type.

O......k


Anyway, to me it screams of desperation, lack of self respect and childishness.

If this guy genuinely treated you so badly yet you are willing to accept his charity, then you kinda deserve each other.

squonk

Buy your own tickets or just resign yourself to missing the gig. It's just a gig. Unless it's Led Zep or a some such of a band or artist that you genuinely would expect to never see again I'd just carry on. Whoever it is will release something new in a year or two and they'll be back around. Alternatively, if you can't get tix here, look into travelling somewhere for a weekend show and have a break away. Far better IMHO.