29 virgin not long out of closet

Newbieadvice

Hi guys;

The title of my post pretty much explains everything. I came out gay following the result of the marraige referendum. It was such a difficult process but I'm glad I did it. My family and friends were so supportive.

Anyhow I'm a bit embarrased to admit but I'm still a virgin. I never had sex with a man or woman I've just spent my entire 20s repressing this part of me. Is this an uncommon situation among gay guys? I really want to meet guys now and start putting myself out there but I know the subject of previous partners will come up and I'll be lost for words.

Nobody knows I'm a virgin, not even my closest friends. I just felt it was nobodies business. Is my situation extremely unusual? Thank you in advance to anyone who replies

Rick_

No, it's not unusual, so don't worry, and you are right, it's no-one's business but yours.

I didn't have any proper sexual contact with another man until a few years ago. I turn 32 later this year. Anyone who takes issue with you not having a sizeable sexual history probably isn't the guy for you anyway, plus, some guys will likely find it endearing that you haven't had any/much experience.

CdeC

Hey Newbie,

I'd doubt it's that uncommon seen as you were hiding yourself away. A lot of gay men in Ireland lose their virginity later than their straight counterparts because of this repression

My advice is to not overthink it. If people go back to their first time , it usually was a little awkward , not really knowing what they were doing and usually finished with "what was the big deal". Remember practice makes perfect and you don't owe anybody anything, only yourself.

reason vs religion

Yeah, I don't think it's a problem at all. People literally won't care, especially considering the whole sexually-reclusive closeted-gay is such a common phenomenon.