Is my coworker playing games?

LegacyUser

I'll try to keep this brief. Last Christmas I got drunk at the work party and ended up sleeping with a co-worker. She was also very drunk. We messaged each other briefly afterwards and both agreed not to tell anyone (obviously). A few weeks later I casually messaged her and it came up in conversation that she was dating someone which I took as a hint not to message her again.

Perhaps another month later I was on Tinder and I saw her on it. I decided to swipe right, partly out of curiosity to see if she swiped right too! She did. So we got chatting for a little bit and she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend. A few days later she said she was going to try things again with him. Again, I took this as a sign to back off.

Then last week I spot her again on Tinder! I swipe right, she swipes right. I initiate a conversation, but it pretty much goes nowhere.

I'm not sure what to make of it. Is she actually interested in me or is she playing games? At work we don't speak too much. For me it's because I get really nervous around her. What her reason is for rarely speaking to me I have no idea.

I was thinking that she actually might like me but does not want pursue a workplace relationship, but I can't be sure. Why would she swipe right on Tinder twice otherwise?

Should I make any more attempts at contacting her or should I just leave well enough alone?

Big Bag of Chips

Seems like she's enjoying the attention, but is not interested enough. Stop swiping right!

Conor Bourke

Did you not post this exact same thing a few weeks ago?!

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057576402

LegacyUser

Why would you bother giving such a head wrecking messer a second thought? I doubt anything she's said about the boyfriend is true, it's a handy backstory to get out of things easily. I'd say she's just making it up as she goes along and keeping you dangling. Have more respect for yourself than to entertain her a moment longer, go and find someone worth the effort.

batmanrobin

I'd say she is. Even if she wasn't, the fact that she is on again/off again with her ex would be enough of a reason to not want to go there. OP, there are ample women out there. Stop giving attention to this one.

SB_Part2

She's not interested. Move on.

Katgurl

She's not interested / available enough. Forget about her for now. If things change from her end she will be sure to let you know.

ChampagnePop

Have you ever actually asked her out?

Sound Bite

Seriously? She is an immature, flaky, attention seeker who is playing you for a fool. She has no interest in you. She is just enjoying the attention/ego boost. Don't be that guy....

RoyalMarine

Maybe she's "swiping right" in response to you doing it, as to not hurt your feelings.

Best advise, don't swipe right for her and move on.
Your head will thank you for it when she's out of it

Ursus Horribilis

So if you get nervous around her, why would you want to go out with her? It sounds like you've put her on a pedestal.

Why is she a head wrecker/immature/flaky/messer/attention seeker? Seriously, I don't know why people have come to that conclusion.

They hooked up, a few weeks later he messages her but it's clear she has a boyfriend by then, life happens.

A month later, he's on tinder looking for a hook-up, as is she being newly single. The hook-up never happens for some unexplained reason but she lets him know that she's trying again with her boyfriend. Again, these things happen.

Again he's on tinder looking for a hook-up, as is she but it "pretty much goes nowhere".

Maybe I don't understand tinder but I'm struggling to see what she's done so "wrong" here, from her point of view a guy from work she's slept with keeps instigating contact with her on tinder and then letting it fizzle out!

OP, I don't want to give you false hope but, for me, this is all far too vague and non-committal. Either ask her out or let it go.

ARE you the same guy that Cornelius linked to?

Neon_Lights

Maybe the sex meant a little bit more to you than it did to her... Just roll with it and keep your options open man, instead of getting butthurt that she won't talk to you. You need to be in control of your own situation not her.