qualify for lone parents?

LegacyUser

I cannot believe I need to ask this question but my fiance has left the home, perhaps due to poor mental state or maybe he just didn't know how to leave but he has turned his phone off and disappeared.
Some friends said they spotted him drinking with other friends over the last few days and each time he told them he was on the way home but still hasn't turned up. The landlord called into our home to say rent has been missed twice now. My fiance told me he lodged the rent each time so as far as I knew we were completely up to date on it. Now he isn't reachable, the landlord wants us out and I have to try find the money to pay pack for two months rent.
I have a baby as well.
I need urgent practical advice on legally what I can do. I will have to pack up everything today but what do I do with his stuff? Do I need to keep it all with me? Seems unfair if he's just walked out to go live like a college student.
How Can I find out about what help I can get for my baby? How does some body qualify as a lone parent?
My aunt said me and the baby can sleep there until I find a place to live but I get only €42 per week on JSA as it's means tested on my Fiance. I don't know where to start and I am overwhelmed.

ShaShaBear

I can't offer much legal advice but didn't want to see this go unanswered. If you are planning to move, take your stuff and yours alone. You are under no obligation to take care of his things. As for your payment, you should attend your local SW office immediately to discuss One Parent Family payment or to inform them that you no longer live with your partner and want a new assessment. Unfortunately there is a good chance that your aunt's earnings will be taken into account in a means test.

So your first port of call is to move out of the house when your notice is up and straight away visit a social welfare office. At the very least you might qualify for a bigger payment either on an independent rate of JSA or OPFP and will be better able to save for your own place.

And lastly, I'm awful sorry to hear of what's happened. Men can leave us in awfully vulnerable positions sometimes and a lot of people still don't believe that we are always the ones left "stuck"

Eric Cartman

OP it sounds to me like your OH is suffering with mental health issues, if he's missed 2 months rent and you are not working it could very well be a financial problem. Until you know the answer I wouldn't go binning his stuff. Obviously you are left in a difficult position here , but it might not be him being a 'bad father' as I'm sure plenty of replies will infer.

Chocolate fiend

I would not have much sympathy for him, he is telling people he is on his way home while continuing to stay out and leave you with nothing. Go to your aunts house, take your own stuff and work on things from there. You and your baby are your priority now.

JuliusCaesar

Call https://onefamily.ie/ urgently. Them and http://www.treoir.ie/

It sounds as if he hasn't told you about financial problems, probably to protect you from worry, and when it looked like his lies were going to emerge, he vanished, not being able to face the problem.

Pack up his stuff, bring it with you. And talk.