can you control your temper, and what do you do to vent anger?

Robsweezie

cant remember the last time i lost my temper proper, i would only come close to it if someone really tested me, provoked me to a certain point. im not the angry sort.

when i am pissed off, i'll go over whats wrong in my head, what i can do, how i can respond instead of lashing out. i find writing helps too.

however what can happen is if im struggling with tasks like housework,, i'll do it more aggressively. if something gets stuck, like a full bag in the bin, i'll pull it out with such force. and it makes me feel better. if somethings in my way i'll shove/kick it away with similar force. my hangers in the wardrobe get stuck together so i just yanked them out. we are like pressure cookers, we can only take so much and not all of us are equipped to deal with it in the 'right' way.

hows your temper and how do you manage it?

The Sidewards Man

Sledge hammer and out to the scrap yard and break whatever windscreen I see.

Rojiblancos

I tend to hold the anger in most of the time but when I let loose its usually by passing comments and snide remarks about the people annoying me. This is also done within hearing distance of them just to piss them off, once they are angered mine disappears.

XR3i

i don't get angry

but when i do i slam on the brakes

The Backwards Man

Na, I'm pretty good at holding even, mostly.

Any time I've ever lost my temper I've felt bad about it afterwards, like really bad, I think if you can handle someone that's trying to rag you without going off the handle yourself then you are in a winning position right from the start.

I like to indulge in a murderous rampage when I'm driving in my little car on the way to the train station. Jogger in the middle of the road? Splat. Cyclists two abreast? Squish. Relaxed walker? Pulverise. When I get on the train my slightly dissipated anger resurfaces. Taking up two seats? Stab you in the eye. Playing music loudly? Chop off your ears. Irritating couple? Fecked out the window.

When all of that is done I like to sit with a cooling eye mask on and some French ambient music playing through my Sennheiser's.

XR3i

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I like to indulge in a murderous rampage when I'm driving in my little car on the way to the train station. Jogger in the middle of the road? Splat. Cyclists two abreast? Squish. Relaxed walker? Pulverise. When I get on the train my slightly dissipated anger resurfaces. Taking up two seats? Stab you in the eye. Playing music loudly? Chop off your ears. Irritating couple? Fecked out the window.

When all of that is done I like to sit with a cooling eye mask on and some French ambient music playing through my Sennheiser's.

i hope i don't meet you on the road :pac:

XR3i

XR3i wrote: »

i hope i don't meet you on the road :pac:

I'd make smithereens of you

XR3i

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I'd make smithereens of you

i'm driving a JCB

Strumms

Tuc crackers with low low emmental cheese spread.. liberally over said cracker.. if that doesn't work... blow **** up

the evasion_kid

Finding it hard to control it the last while,must be an age thing...I just try avoid people

Maximus Alexander

There's very little in my life worth getting angry over. Life's easy, the things that annoy me are trivial and I usually just laugh at or mock the people responsible.

bodice ripper

Continuous stream-of-consciousness giving out.

LordSutch

Robsweezie wrote: »

can you control your temper, and what do you do to vent anger?

Listen to relaxing music, go for a run, cuddle the wife, do a cross word puzzle.

FanadMan

Robsweezie wrote: »

hows your temper and how do you manage it?

It used to be a blade and my arms/legs. Now it's a notebook......soooooo many people mentioned in it :mad:

Lady is a tramp

I don't do emotions. Most of the time! I've been diagnosed as emotionally over-controlled. The way the psychologist described it is "the beachball effect", where you're constantly trying to hold a beachball under the water, but it's always going to splat up somewhere from time to time. The way my counsellor describes it is that I'm under an ocean of repressed emotion, and I seem to think I can toddle along on top of it, but I can't. When I do get angry though, I just take it out on myself rather than anyone else. Self-harm etc.

Yes, I'm just a little bit f*cked up in the head.

IrishZeus

the evasion_kid wrote: »

Finding it hard to control it the last while,must be an age thing...I just try avoid people

Apt username!

I very rarely get actually angry. I'm more of a frustrated talker and a planner, so it usually doesn't get past that. Only time I get angry is when I'm playing video games and then I'm amazed that my controller still works.

whiskeyman

I can do some mean 'tut-tutting'.








You really don't want me to unleash it.

Lyaiera

I got angry at my GP's surgery yesterday. I told him, "I am really angry!" Because I feel like none of my other doctors have been listening to exactly what I've been saying and are off living in their own world when it comes to what they think I said. "Oh, how long have you been feeling angry, that could be a sign of..." "I've been feeling angry since I was rejected for an appointment, and I'm perfectly entitled to feel angry."

I think some people think that just because a person is angry that they're not in control of themselves. That they might lash out, or something. You can be angry and controlled.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I'd say I'm good enough at controlling my anger. I get mad about everything. There's a primary school nearby where I have to go to get to work and it's always mayhem. I always always get out of the car in a blind rage. Parents that didn't bother getting dressed, parents stopping dead in the middle of the road and letting small kids out of the car , and will stay on the middle of the road (despite the traffic lights) until little darling goes into school. People with no indicator. I give out and rant so much that sometimes luckiest man will drive the longer way so we don't pass it/he doesn't have to listen to me.

Then on public transport, people with bags on seats, asleep on seats, oblivious to them taking up two seats, trying to save the seat beside them because they don't want anyone next to them, people eating apples, screaming kids, obnoxious people on the phone. Swear to god, you could not be dealing. It's a shot of tequila you'd want getting off that, not a coffee.

You know that ad for just eat with the old lady and the man on his phone to his wife about dinner. She's my spirit animal.

So most mornings I'm fit to be tied getting off public transport, but I'll rarely say it. Unless someone won't move their stuff. "Eh there's a seat over there, can't you sit there?" Eh. Are you paying for both seats you're sprawled across? No?? Move your feet. I'm sitting here. Or the evening my legs were kicked off me by a little brat. Passive aggressive phone call to my friend after calmly asking him to stop kicking me. "Yeah, sitting on the train. In front of some young lad. I'll be black and blue. No manners on him at all. He's been kicking the legs off me for the last 40 mins." And his mother subtly trying to tell him to stop whilst avoiding any eye contact with me.

If I'm fighting with the oh and I'm really angry, I'll walk away before I say something I don't mean or start to cry. Generally you can gauge the seriousness of a fight by my reaction. Am I going mad? It'll be grand I'll calm down in a few minutes. Am I saying nothing? Am I walking away?? It's pretty bad.

My brother is the only person who can fill me with actual physical rage. I've gotten physcotic from rage about three times in my life. And it's all from him pushing me too far. He usually knows exactly what buttons to press to boil my blood but not blow a fuse. Rarely, he goes a bit further than that and all hell breaks loose. I've had fingernails pulled off trying to claw the face off him, I've tried to smash in his car windscreen, I've made him spit out my cereal he was eating, poured the entire box of cereal on the floor and walked them into the ground, before taking the bowl off him and smashing that on the floor too.

There's no calming me down when I get to that stage, just have to wait for me to run out of steam. The night I lost my fingernails he grabbed me and tried hold my hands under running water to stop the blood but I was still trying to wriggle free to finish hitting him. He's the only person I've ever hit in my life.

Irishcrx

Very good these days , as I've god a little older I'm much better at holding my fuse and letting thing's go over my head.

I used to be a disaster , I'd go off on one and the red mist would decend very easily but it was starting to effect my personality and the way people saw me I had to make an effort to change and control it.

It wasn't just roaring or shouting , I'd get pysical very quickly after losing it and I was a nasty little f**** tbh , I'd bite you if it came to it...just a total lack of sense for those few minutes. I was a horror playing football as well , I once headbutted an opponent who was trying to shake my hand after a game because I was pissed off.

All good these days , can honestly say I haven't come close to losing my temper in years and can laugh pretty much anything off but it took work and time to get there.

Duggy747

I'm a very chilled-out guy so it does take a lot to really rile me up, other times I'll just bottle or let it go because most times something isn't worth my time getting in a huff over. Not giving a shít about what others think is also handy

Music, beer, hanging with me animals, or just playing a game are a good outlet for me.