i just want to get married!

rawn

Hi all.

Myself and my fiance had all these grand plans for a outdoor, humanist wedding sometime in about 2 years bit we've decided to just say f@$k it and go get married without all of the bells and whistles. We've realised it's just more "us", and the fact that I'm now pregnant on our first baby certainly helped to make our minds up! All we want to do is, turn up, just us with 2 witnesses if that's required, and sign on the dotted line. Where do we start? I've been looking on the citizens advice page and they say we need to give 3 months notice, including our date of intention to marry, but where do i go to just have a legal, signing-of-the-paper day?

davyboy1975

rawn wrote: »

Hi all.

Myself and my fiance had all these grand plans for a outdoor, humanist wedding sometime in about 2 years bit we've decided to just say f@$k it and go get married without all of the bells and whistles. We've realised it's just more "us", and the fact that I'm now pregnant on our first baby certainly helped to make our minds up! All we want to do is, turn up, just us with 2 witnesses if that's required, and sign on the dotted line. Where do we start? I've been looking on the citizens advice page and they say we need to give 3 months notice, including our date of intention to marry, but where do i go to just have a legal, signing-of-the-paper day?

You need to give three months notice even if its for a signing the paper day as you call it

rawn

davyboy1975 wrote:

You need to give three months notice even if its for a signing the paper day as you call it

Ya but they want a date of intention to marry, what office or clerk do we apply to for a signing the paper date?

Purple410

Choose the registry office you want to get married in. Maybe local is you only criteria. You may want to have abit of a think about whether the location matters. although the look of the office may not matter to you, which is great. Some of the registry offices are abit nicer than others.( I did get warned some are grim!). The more popular ones tend to get booked up much more than three months in advance. Some only offer ceremonies on certain days of the week.
When you decide what one you want to use, you book online, making sure you choose the correct option. There are options for civil or religious etc. I'm not sure if online booking lets you see what dates/times are available for weddings. You may need to ring to find out so you know your wedding date before booking the giving 3 months notice appointment. The notice appointment seems to be around 30mins give or take. There would be additional for arranging a civil ceremony. Do check what paperwork you need asap. Hopefully not complicated, but locating birth certs and passports etc sooner gives you time to order replacements if needed.

Although you only need to give 3 months notice, the availability of slots in registry offices does vary. I think it can be longer than 3 months so it's better to look at the availability at the registry offices that you think you want to use as soon as you can.

Best of luck with everything

tracey turnblad

Go to Belfast city hall you can married with four weeks notice

05eaftqbrs9jlh

I assume registry offices aren't open on Sundays, is it possible to get married on a Sunday if you're not having a ceremony? We're just looking to do the legal stuff for now and we'll have a party in our own time.

DM addict

Makayla Young Briefcase wrote: »

I assume registry offices aren't open on Sundays, is it possible to get married on a Sunday if you're not having a ceremony? We're just looking to do the legal stuff for now and we'll have a party in our own time.

Only Monday to Friday for registry offices I believe

Purple410

DM addict wrote: »

Only Monday to Friday for registry offices I believe

Monday to Friday, though some offices restrict this to two or three weekdays. Even the 'legal bit' involves a ceremony of sorts, just with a registrar instead of minister/priest/humanist etc. When you got to the registrars office to give notice I guess they talk you through the options for the ceremony. Just sticking to the legal system will keep it short. You can still personalise it abit since your going through it anyway and paying for it!just book an appointment to give notice as soon as possible. There can be a wait to get the appointment to give notice which you've got to factor in on top of the three months.

Purple410

I might be corrected...perhaps a registrar will do a ceremony on a weekend for a fee?

05eaftqbrs9jlh

Purple410 wrote:

I might be corrected...perhaps a registrar will do a ceremony on a weekend for a fee?

That might be an option, I hope so. We want the date to be our anniversary.

Faith

Purple410 wrote: »

I might be corrected...perhaps a registrar will do a ceremony on a weekend for a fee?

I'm almost certain that they don't. That's the big drawback with civil ceremonies. But maybe someone else has managed to fine someone who will work weekends.

Keane2baMused

Purple410 wrote: »

I might be corrected...perhaps a registrar will do a ceremony on a weekend for a fee?

Nope, Monday to Friday only.

lainey316

In the north they do weekends for an additional fee - definitely Saturday, not certain on Sunday - if that is an option.

tracey turnblad

You can get a solimiser to do a weekend legal marriage

fannymagee

Makayla Young Briefcase wrote: »

That might be an option, I hope so. We want the date to be our anniversary.

What date are you looking for? I can solemnise on Sundays if you're set on your date. It's not a popular day for weddings so I've lots of Sunday's free- don't be stuck! :-)

05eaftqbrs9jlh

fannymagee wrote: »

What date are you looking for? I can solemnise on Sundays if you're set on your date. It's not a popular day for weddings so I've lots of Sunday's free- don't be stuck! :-)

That'd be great, we're looking for Sunday 18th September. Our appointment in the registrar's office is the 13th June. We're in Cork. Are you free and how much will it cost!? Thanks so much.

fannymagee

Makayla Young Briefcase wrote: »

That'd be great, we're looking for Sunday 18th September. Our appointment in the registrar's office is the 13th June. We're in Cork. Are you free and how much will it cost!? Thanks so much.

Yes I'm free that day! I'll PM you