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Advice on starting again

  • 17-05-2016 6:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am looking for advice on how to get on my feet when I have to leave a relationship where we are cohabiting.
    My partner is useless, he disappears for sometimes a full week at a time, he loses his jobs because he doesn't show up due to these week long drinking sessions. He's left us in this house with no electricity while he disappeared one morning, turned off his phone and didn't show up until 8 days later.
    When he finally came home his attitude was basically that I am not his mother and he can do what he wants when he wants and that he won't apologise for that. Steaming drunk of course and trying to take the baby out of my arms and upsetting her.

    I know my daughter would be better with just me, without this horrible negativity and before she gets used to relying on her dad. She's still only a baby so she wouldn't really understand whats going on yet but she surely will in another year or two.

    Here is the thing, I do not have a job, I gave it up to stay home with our daughter when my maternity leave ended. And I am pregnant. We've been left completely high and dry. I need to find a way to support my daughter and this new baby but we will need to leave this house that we rent together.

    Any information on where to start? I didn't expect to be doing this.


Comments

  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    You poor thing, what a horrendous environment for you and your little one. You need to leave this man for the sake of you, your daughter and your little one on the way. How far along are you? I think your best bet might b to ask your public health nurse to do a home visit tomorrow and tell her everything. She then may be able to expedite accommodation through the HSE for you. You can't stay where you are and you face a brighter and safer future without this man. Take care of yourself, I really hope everything works out for you and your little ones.


  • #3
    KikiDee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,052 ✭✭✭KikiDee


    Hey OP,

    First off, well done you for being brave enough to make this decision. Merkin is 100% right. Your future will be so much brighter without this man. Another option, other than your health nurse, would be your local citizens information centre. They really do know everything! With regards to money management, MABS are great. They helped me no end when I first moved out of the home I shared with my ex. You'd be surprised how much you can stretch what little money you may have.

    Good luck to you OP :)


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