The most horrible sounding thing you've ever said.

thelad95

Have you ever accidentally said something that has haunted you afterwards for ages?

A couple of weeks ago, my friends mother lost her best friend to cancer and she was obviously visibly cut up about it but was trying her best to cope. We were having tea in the kitchen when conversation turned to an incident the previous week where my sister had been mugged and had a relatively large sum of money taken from her. When his mother asked was she upset afterwards I said, as a turn of phrase I use nearly every day 'she was upset afterwards but she'll get over it like it's only money, at the end of the day nobody died'. The silence in the room was deafening and even writing this has led to me wanting to smack myself firmly in the face. I genuinely didn't sleep a wink that night and it still pops into mind when I lie in bed.

Another incident occurred with a guy who was in my year in school who also recently lost his father to cancer a few months beforehand. I was an immature 16 year old and I was chatting to him about an argument I'd had with my Dad recently, can't even remember what it was when I said 'my Dad is such a ******, I felt like killing him'. Again that still nags at my conscience occasionally.

What's yours?

Andre 3000

I was at my friends house. We were having dinner with his folks. Sharing stories and whatnot. I dunno the context but I ended up calling my friend a retard, in a playful manner, as you do. It's awful how things like that are part of the vernacular but that's that way it is. Anyway his sister has down syndrome. I nearly cried with the shame and embarrassment.

bodhrandude

A place I used to live in, in Galway in the early noughties, my room was above the landlord's garage entrance, they lived round the corner. But the electronic garage door hadn't been oiled in years and when he came home from work the sound from the garage door would send shock waves through me, I practically go into paroxysms just thinking about it now.
Edit: Fcuk I misread thread title I thought 'most horrible sounding thing you heard.' in my flobber-headed stoner vision. Could be an interesting topic in itself though.

Keane2baMused

Andre 3000 wrote: »

I was at my friends house. We were having dinner with his folks. Sharing stories and whatnot. I dunno the context but I ended up calling my friend a retard, in a playful manner, as you do. It's awful how things like that are part of the vernacular but that's that way it is. Anyway his sister has down syndrome. I nearly cried with the shame and embarrassment.

That's interesting but try not beat yourself up. Recently I pulled a friend up on it who regularly used the word (as seems to be common place now)

Dunno how she didn't cop it given my sibling has Down syndrome and my child has autism. Most people don't mean it but don't think of the hurt behind the word.

The worst thing I said was I hate you, I don't hate anyone. But I was at a very low ebb after being put through hell by a very selfish and nasty person. Not an excuse to say that but there you go.

The Sidewards Man

You are a useless Toyota mechanic who cannot work on Audi's was the latest one.

dreamers75

Was moving into my house few years ago and wifes grandmother had died the night before.

My mate was helping us move and we had to get stuff from the wifes mothers house, he walks in and everyone is quiet and just sitting there.

He asked " jaysis who died"......to which he got 5 responses of our mother/grandmother.

I left the room and pissed myself laughing, we had to make 3 more trips to the house

I was praying to God the other night and chatting away about something or other and casually said "the wife will crucify me".

Then it dawned on me...the ONE person you don't wanna say that to..l

Omackeral

Deleted User wrote: »

I was praying to God the other night and chatting away about something or other and casually said "the wife will crucify me".

Then it dawned on me...the ONE person you don't wanna say that to..l

I don't think it counts if you say it to imaginary people.

gifted

I do......(wedding)...:D

Canard

If it makes anyone feel any better, one of my parents is dead and whenever people put their foot in their mouth I just laugh :pac: You know it's never intentional, so what can you do but laugh it off? I guess everyone's different and it depends how raw it is, but try not to beat yourselves up too much, these things just slip out sometimes.

Around mother's day this year I was in town with a friend whose mother has also passed away and some guy asked us to be in a video he was making. Here's how the conversation went:

"Do you guys wanna be in a video?"
"Eh, sure, what's it about?"
"Mother's Day!"
"Oh... mmm..."
"C'mon, you guys will be the first people in it, please?"
"We're really the worst people you could have asked for this..."
"Why? " (he was getting kinda annoyed and thought we were just trying to sneak out of it I think)
"...Both of our mothers are dead...."

His face... poor guy

mud

It's awful when you put your foot in it but it can be a good way of learning to engage the brain before opening your mouth!

My worst was when I told my sister in law a really awful joke.

Me: What's the opposite of Christopher Reeves . . . Christopher Walken!

Her Dad had just been consigned to a wheelchair for the rest of his life


Recently I had a chance to pull someone up on something that had been bothering me for ages. They have a habit of saying everything is GAY. That's GAY. He's GAY. GAY. GAY. GAY.

I said what's wrong with being gay? Why are you equating gay with something bad? They fell over themselves telling me that it was just a word, just an expression etc but they were shamed over it and I hope they'll think before throwing that phrase around the place again.

This Fat Girl Runs

Years ago I called someone a 'zit on a cnut' once. Not to their face. Behind their back but other people heard it. I said it in anger but was ashamed of myself as soon as I said it. I'm still ashamed of it.

retro:electro

Yes, a friend of a friend's brother was killed in a car crash a few years ago and I was asked to look after her three dogs for the week until the funeral was over. This was a week after my own dog of 12 years had died. I called over and collected them, was lost for words over what to say to the poor girl, I felt so sorry for her but at the same time I hardly knew her. She starts to thank me for taking the dogs for the week, and I, out of complete loss over what to say, awkwardly start babbling, "oh it's no problem at all, I lost my own dog there last week so these will keep me company, it's awful losing a pet I feel so lost and empty you don't know what to do with yourself", mid sentence the realisation of the situation dawned on me. Here I was going on about how awful it was losing my dog to someone whose brother was just killed in a car crash. She just stared at me blankly. Never wanted the ground to swallow me up more than that moment. I'm still cringing writing this.

tritium

Andre 3000 wrote: »

I was at my friends house. We were having dinner with his folks. Sharing stories and whatnot. I dunno the context but I ended up calling my friend a retard, in a playful manner, as you do. It's awful how things like that are part of the vernacular but that's that way it is. Anyway his sister has down syndrome. I nearly cried with the shame and embarrassment.

Similar but not something I said. A colleague many years ago was a fan of a particular comic strip and I came across a couple of episodes that had been pulled as controversial. Given he was a fan I very helpfully forwarded them on. Of course little immature and naive me didnt check why they'd been pulled, or I would have realised that the reason was it made humour out of people with learning disability. Which isn't a great thing to send to someone whose favourite younger sibling has down syndrome. He was unimpressed, I wanted the ground to swallow me, and all from something I intended to be nice...

The lesson, read your mails and engage brain before you hit send

ToddyDoody

"You'll look like a slapper in those pants". This was yesterday.

Stigura

My penis. I was chatting to a young girl one day and, as Canard said; It just slipped out.


Am I doing this right

corner of hells

I used to work in a drop in centre for homeless people , as the centre gets ready to close you have to encourage the service users to head on for the night .

Part of training new placements or employees is to encourage them to be firm and direct when asking someone to leave , it was going well one night until a new student placement roared across the floor " have yiz no homes to go to ?"

I still shudder.

Dr Crayfish

Blathnaid NiChofaigh. Sounds like someone hacking up blood from their chest.

CarrickMcJoe

Was mowing the lawn one day when our neighbours pulled up. Now, this guy is uasally so dirty from work, you can only see the whites of his eyes but this evening, he was spotless and suited up.
"You did well to clean your man up" says I to his wife, over the noise of the lawnmower

"Ah, he's going to bed", she says back.

"i know the feeling, had a few of those days meself" I joked.

Later that evening, my wife says, I see John's mother;s dead!
It dawned on me, she said, "his mother's dead".

Had to go and apologise, and she said all they could do was laugh when they went inside.

ThatGeekGirl

Years ago a co-worker's mother had just died, now I know for anyone's mother to die is a terrible and sad thing but this woman died very suddenly and he was really close to her so was taking it very very badly. He made it into work about a week later saying he wanted to just get his routine back in order and for everyone to act like normal etc etc. Cashing up that night we were all having the banter laughing and joking when he said something funny which I cannot recall but to which I replied without even thinking "yeah that's what your ma said last night".... I swear to god I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole. The look on his face... I still to this day cannot believe I said it.

The Sidewards Man

George Dalton can deliver what you cant.

PandaPoo

I was at my aunts funeral a few months ago. Went back to the house and my uncle had made some soup, im known for loving it!
I tasted it and someone made a comment that its my favourite thing, and I said ah sure I only came for the soup. As soon as I said it I was cringing.

the_pen_turner

not really what I said but what I did.

a couple of years ago I was driving through a distant village . I spotted a guy I went to school with walking along . gave a blow to the horn in a beep,,,,,beep,,,,beep beep beep,,,,,,beep ,,,,beeeeeeep, kind of way.

just as I did it I went around a slight corner only to see a funeral procession coming out of a house . they were walking to the church a few hundred yards down the road. all the grieving family just looked .

I couldn't overtake so I just turned around and fled .

I was mortified. the guy was buckled over laughing

luckily nobody knew me or the car but I felt horrible.
I met the guy a few months later and he told me it was a distant relation he barely knew and that he couldn't keep a straight face through the funeral

XxMCRxBabyxX

Was talking to a friend who had lost his mother and grandmother in recent times about those Nigerian prince email scams and blurted out something along the lines "sure I have loads of dead relatives" meaning all those emails you get about some "distant relative" leaving you money. I spotted his reaction and realised my stupidity but I was apologising for ages. I still feel so bad about it.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

When my dad was in his final days, I spent all night with him. It was awful. Seeing him like that was awful. I sat there, actually praying - and I'm not a praying kinda girl - for God to take him. I sat there and wished he was dead.
I know that sounds awful, and disgusting and terrible. And I still feel guilty, even admitting it in this post, after watching how hard he struggled to stay with us, how much he wanted to stay alive, and I prayed for him to die.

Now don't get me wrong, I loved him dearly and it wasn't for a selfish reason. But it was the absolute worst thing I've ever done.

ThatGeekGirl

LexieOnRale wrote: »

When my dad was in his final days, I spent all night with him. It was awful. Seeing him like that was awful. I sat there, actually praying - and I'm not a praying kinda girl - for God to take him. I sat there and wished he was dead.
I know that sounds awful, and disgusting and terrible. And I still feel guilty, even admitting it in this post, after watching how hard he struggled to stay with us, how much he wanted to stay alive, and I prayed for him to die.

Now don't get me wrong, I loved him dearly and it wasn't for a selfish reason. But it was the absolute worst thing I've ever done.

I know you feel guilty but you are not the first, nor will be the last person to have thought (or prayed) for a loved one in pain to be released from it. I know so many people who have been through the same situation, including my mother about her own mother. It is not that you want the person to die, you just know that they are in pain and there is nothing you can do for them so it would be better for them if they were at peace. Try not to beat yourself up about it.

makingmecrazy

I was visiting a friend a few years ago and her son and his friend came in. They were about 12/13 at the time.
They came into the kitchen while we were having a coffee and started chatting away. My friend is a bit of a character, always cracking jokes and taking the mick. Anyway, she was slagging the boys about chasing girls etc and they were getting a bit embarrassed so I said to the sons' friend laughing"Ah, don't mind her, she has a bit of a screw loose" and made the "crazy swirly finger" gesture at the side of my head.
Why is this bad you may ask?

The lad was wearing a halo brace at the time.
I could have died with shame.

RayM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

When my dad was in his final days, I spent all night with him. It was awful. Seeing him like that was awful. I sat there, actually praying - and I'm not a praying kinda girl - for God to take him. I sat there and wished he was dead.
I know that sounds awful, and disgusting and terrible. And I still feel guilty, even admitting it in this post, after watching how hard he struggled to stay with us, how much he wanted to stay alive, and I prayed for him to die.

Now don't get me wrong, I loved him dearly and it wasn't for a selfish reason. But it was the absolute worst thing I've ever done.

When my mum was dying from cancer, I felt the same. And I hated myself for it. She was completely unconscious for two days before she died, but she was putting so much effort into each breath. It was unbearable and I just wanted it to be over.

NIMAN

I once asked a person in work how the new arrival was doing, not knowing that the baby was stillborn. And this was in front of an audience too.

Talk about feeling terrible.

Esel

When are you due?

CabanSail

Not quite the same but when you say something in jest that others take seriously.

I remember when I was at college. There was a guy in one of the classes who was alright but very homophobic. He seemed to turn every conversation around to him being disgusted by anyone who was gay. I did find it uncomfortable. I thought it may be best to confront it with humour. After one of these comments;

Me: You do know there's a poof in our class?
Him: No. Who?
Me: Give us a kiss and I'll tell ya.

Others found it funny but he didn't.


"Apart from that Mrs Lincoln, did you enjoy the show?"
Reporter outside Ford's Theater. April 14 1865