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Am I wrong?

  • 06-05-2016 2:13pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My partner has 3 grown up kids. I've been with him for 10 years.

    His kids don't talk to me. Its his youngest daughters 25th birthday and he rang me saying " did you get her a card for her birthday?" , I said " no, why would I ?"

    She won't talk to me but she will take my money?!! Am I wrong not to give a card?


Comments

  • #2
    Tilly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,987 ✭✭✭Tilly


    What's the reason they won't talk to you?


  • #3
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    A card /= money. You can give a card with just warm wishes in it. I think it's always polite to make an effort. Treat others as you'd like to be treated, as the saying goes.


  • #4
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,907 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    It's his daughter. You're his partner. He should be the one sending the card from both of you. I don't see the need for 2 separate cards. Maybe he meant, he didn't get her one, did you?? Like a lot of men, whi would expect wives/girlfriends to sort out the little things like that?!


  • #5
    Carlos Orange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,499 ✭✭✭Carlos Orange


    Maybe,maybe not but why is this coming up now?
    Did you get her a card for any of the previous 9 birthdays?


  • #6
    Colser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,572 ✭✭✭Colser


    Presuming that he didnt mean one for him to give her... I wouldnt be giving her one from yourself OP,why would you? Its probably a situation where you cannot win,give her one and she wont want it,dont give her one and she will moan about that so I genuinely wouldnt be giving her one if it was me.


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  • #7
    Irish_Elect_Eng
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,260 ✭✭✭Irish_Elect_Eng


    You're a adult.

    You want to be with your partner long term.

    Work to fix your relationship with the kids before it becomes an issue between you and your partner.


  • #8
    Big Bag of Chips
    Administrators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 14,907 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Big Bag of Chips


    Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »
    You're a adult.

    Work to fix your relationship with the kids before it becomes an issue between you and your partner.

    The "kids" are also adults. The youngest is 25!

    What did he reply when you said "No, why would I?"


  • #9
    FizzleSticks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,172 ✭✭✭FizzleSticks


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