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Self-esteem/self-confidence issues

  • 03-05-2016 9:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Does anyone have any tips on dealing with very low self-esteem/self-confidence? I'm 27 years old and struggling with what is probably social anxiety. I am completely useless in group social situations and I'm beginning to realise how much it holds me back. It's really been getting me down lately and leading to some self-hatred-type thoughts.

    I have a great group of close friends that I can be myself with but a lot of them have emigrated recently. I've been trying to integrate myself more into my boyfriend's circle of friends, and trying to make friendships in work, but I'm so useless at it. I think I'm actually a sound person, but I probably come across very stuck-up to people. I just can't seem to be myself at all.

    Not sure where this comes from, I've always been a quiet person but up to my teen years, I was a quietly confident kid and happy in myself. Got bullied in secondary school which really seemed to knock me. Went to counselling in my early 20s but didn't get a huge amount from it. Has anyone got any other tips of how to overcome this? They would be much appreciated!


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  • #2
    Drumpot
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    I find CBT and what little meditation I spend time on, helpful... Both on some level are about inner peace and reacting better to life as it happens. I still have anxiety but it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be.

    I used to be on all sorts of medication and going to different counsellors. When I started CBT through aware life skills , I begun to make huge progress.

    http://www.aware.ie/life-skills/

    The worst thing for me was feeling like I had to figure out how to find happiness or peace in life. The group life skills programme was a great introduction for me. I hated being in a group but comitting to the 6 weeks and doing them gave me a great sense of self confidence to explore other avenues.

    One to one CBT and I changed doctors because I got a bit of self worth. Instead of believing I was a bad patient I chose to try and find a doctor who didn't make me feel like a hopeless case!!!

    Hope this helps.


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