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Is the writing on the wall...

  • 28-04-2016 11:08AM
    #1
    Rosepup
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12 ✭


    Hi all, just looking for some unbiased opinions. My partner and I just split on Monday. Some background info, we were together the year before last and everything was going very well, then suddenly came to a screeching halt and he said he couldn't give me what I deserved. Fair enough I thought and never persisted with anything. We work together so although it was difficult at times it seemed a lot better. Then due to an accident last September I ended up in hospital so was not in work for 2 weeks. Suddenly we started to get on much better when we didn't see each other for a period of a week. After that we started to get close again and we ended up getting back together. He told me opening up is hard for him and in time he would and how happy he was etc. I was also very happy to hear this finally as I never really got over him. All going well and spending weekends away and doing normal couple stuff.
    Then last week, I could feel it again. He was starting to lose interest. And I thought here we go again. He was starting to be very busy and I'm not stupid we all know what that means. So I had a chat with him and he said a few things that resembled the previous time we broke up. So I left work and that evening he said to me he didn't know why he said those things, he had never felt so down and sad after he saw me leave.
    He never really speaks about his emotions so this came as a surprise to me. I took this as he cares. We ended on a good note and then I didn't hear from him again for the weekend.
    Fast forward to the Monday morning, I told him I was leaving our work for a while (it's flexible enough to do so) as I needed time to think as we have never actually ever had time apart in years. He seemed to take this ok. Didn't try and beg me to stay etc. So I know I'm making the right decision in leaving. Any interaction we have had since he has been very short with me. I don't know if he's angry at me or hurt. I also don't know if I need to bring up the break up again or just leave. Help. I really would love to work things out but it's hard to feel like he even cares.


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  • #2
    batmanrobin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 385 ✭✭batmanrobin


    He's broken up with you twice. Why would you want to go back for him to do it a third time? OP, I'm all for people going back a second time to try to make something work. However, going back a third time is insane. You're not suited to each other. He wouldn't have ended it twice if you were.

    Move on from it. Take the time to sort your head, but your focus should be on getting over him, not hoping to get back together.


  • #3
    Rosepup
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12 ✭Rosepup


    batmanrobin wrote: »
    He's broken up with you twice. Why would you want to go back for him to do it a third time? OP, I'm all for people going back a second time to try to make something work. However, going back a third time is insane. You're not suited to each other. He wouldn't have ended it twice if you were.

    Move on from it. Take the time to sort your head, but your focus should be on getting over him, not hoping to get back together.

    Thanks for the advice I will do my best to move on.


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