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Girlfriend and moving away

  • 28-04-2016 04:40AM
    #1
    Kirby42
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 84 ✭✭


    So I have an absolutely amazing girlfriend. We've been together for 7 months and it's going great. We might be moving in together during the summer.

    We live in a foreign country. This week I've been home in Ireland and it has really messed with my head. I've missed home a lot. Family, friends, food and a general better standard of living. I also suffer from anxiety and depression at times due to a medical condition. It's easier to deal with in Ireland.

    Ive been working abroad for a year and I feel that I want to move home when my contract is up. But I don't think she can come with me. She's not an EU citizen and she doesn't speak English.

    I don't want to lose her, but I don't really want to stay in her country forever either. What am I to do?


Comments

  • #2
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Well there's no point moving in with her if you want to move home. Can she start to learn English with a view to moving here for a while and seeing if she likes it. If she won't move then you need to make a decision but don't deepen the relationship if you aren't going to be around for good.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Neither the fact that she's not an EU citizen nor her language abilities are absolute barriers to her coming here. They are hurdles to be overcome, but plenty of people have overcome them and she could too.
    That said, you haven't mentioned talking to her about it. Maybe she'd laugh at the idea of moving to Ireland and wants to go somewhere else, or has no intention of shifting from home at all. I suggest you talk it through with her first, 'cos otherwise you don't have a decision to make. Once you have an idea what you both want, you'll find a way to make it happen if you both want it enough. If you don't want the same things, then you go and make your own plans.


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