I lent money, how do I get it back?

clueless1

I stupidly lent money to a guy I was seeing it's a small amount €200 but he keeps making excuses as to why he can give it back. He seems to have a lot of money troubles since I met him.

I broke up with him and now I have no idea how to get it bk. I know i'm an absolute fool for giving it to him, but he seemed so trustworthy at the start.

I cant ask my friends, family for advice????

Leogirl

In the same boat- over €1000 owed. I'll be interested to hear if there is a way to get it back.

uck51js9zml2yt

Was in the same boat 10 years ago. Never got it back , only seen him once since.
Write it off and move on.

Leogirl

Luke Gentle Lump wrote:

Was in the same boat 10 years ago. Never got it back , only seen him once since. Write it off and move on.

I've a child with this man, unfortunately can't just walk away. Although he might!

LegacyUser

clueless1 hate to say but consider that money gone. I've been there many years ago with an ex who I trusted at the time. He not only owed me money but I found lots of things missing from my place (dvds/cds/books etc) that he denied taking but it could only have been him. Consider it a lesson learned in the giant mess that is relationships. You could try chasing him for the money but he will only avoid you/change his number/tell all his friends your a nut case that's still wants him etc etc....honestly not worth it.



Leogirl if the money owed to you is for child support then that's a different situation entirely.

Call me Al

Unfortunately it isnt a case of whether or not you can walk away from the money you're owed. You may have no choice but to do so.
The idea that you should never lend money to a friend that you can't afford to lose always holds true, as you may end up losing both.

Big Bag of Chips

If he has money troubles then he owes more than you money, and I'd guess you're fairly far down his list of priorities to pay it back to. Keep asking, but accept that whatever excuses he gives you are lies, and realise that he hasn't given it back to you because he doesn't have it.

Rubberchikken

might be best to just forget ever seeing it again.
i realise that 200 euro is a lot to lose depending on circumstances, but having done the decent thing and loaning it to him, stressing about getting it back isn't really worth it.
you could tell him you need it repaid but only you know if that's worth the hassle.

good luck

pgj2015

why not bring him to the small claims court? maybe get on to citizens advice and see what they say.

cml387

pgj2015 wrote: »

why not bring him to the small claims court? maybe get on to citizens advice and see what they say.

Not applicable to this sort of case.

And even if it was, you could win and still be looking for the money.

fatknacker

Next time you're in his house borrow his Xbox or whatever as collateral.

Electric Sheep

I take it he's not paying child support either? Time to file for that.

Leogirl

Electric Sheep wrote:

I take it he's not paying child support either? Time to file for that.

He pays this. So far has never missed. The money he owes me, I'd say I can kiss goodbye to that.