Girlfriend Dumped Me

LegacyUser

Hi,

Regular poster and contributor in this forum, for the purpose of this post I have decided to go Anon.

My girlfriend has broken up with me in the last week. There's a few years of an age gap between myself and herself but it has never been an issue, her being the older one. We have been together just over three years now and things have finally come to a head. I am about to start a new job on the opposite side of the country to where we live. She's at the stage now where she wants to be moving in with a partner and starting to settle down and unfortunately I cannot give her that just this year.

I have promised it to her the year after, but as I have to complete my apprenticeship hours she sees no way passed this, I cannot give her what she wants. Now this is not the only issue but I do feel it is the straw that broke the camel's back. We were madly in love and have great memories together, holidays, trips away, concerts, nights out etc and I want this to continue. However, I have not been the best of boyfriends by my own admission, if I have an issue in the relationship I will fall silent and not speak about it and then have a cut at her. I know it's coming, even before its near happening and I know it will likely end up in a fight however I cannot seem to stop myself. We hadn't had a spat in about six months and we were joking last week about how we were due one and sure enough, along it comes.

I was at a family event with her two weeks ago and said something to her brother, who replied back with an answer I did not want to here so I in turn snapped back. I am a very sarcastic individual, but there is never any malice in what I say, I mean no harm in it and almost instantly regret it I just cant control what I say some times. She was very upset afterwards. I cannot begin to think how many friendships and relationships I have lost due to my sarcastic mouth and I have been aware of the problem since I have been a child. I just cannot seem to control it.

I know her family may not think fondly of me any more as they saw her upset at the christening and she feels that there is no way back, I have won her back before even though she has told me not to bother and that there's no point. She went on to say after we got back together she was glad I fought for us. She is saying again now not to bother but I feel I cannot just let it go.

I don't even know why I am writing this, it feels good to get it off my chest though, thanks for any replies that come my way.

D.

racso1975

Not much advice that can be given here. You evidently know what's wrong here especially given you have lost a lot of friendships over your sarcasm and lack of ability to control it.

If you decide to fight to get her back and do or get into another relationship please take the time to read back over your op and see what you do wrong and ensure you are not letting those behaviours manifest themselves