Do I leave or not?

marble

Hi all.
My marriage has broken down,as my wife doesn't feel she's happy anymore.we have 2 schoolgoing kids and we both work full-time.although she's the sole owner of the property,do I have to move out just because she wants me to?
It's not an ideal situation and if I could afford to move out I would,but I with the wage I'm on I can't afford to rent(we both live and work in Dublin)
I've searched for properties to rent,but literally couldn't afford the rent,and I'd also prefer be somewhat local for my children.
Anyone?

tmalmb

From my experience, I would begin preparing to move out, if possible I would try and get mediation going to iron out the co-parenting responsibilities and initiating discussions around separation of assets and financial responsibilities.

uck51js9zml2yt

You don't have to move out
Its also your home.
You really need to get legal advice going forward.

rhabarbarum

Well, If your wife is a sole owner of a property and your prenup says that whatever someone owns or buys stays with them, then I’d begin to pack my things. But really, get some legal advice. And try to stay as civil as possible. From my own experience, this makes things so much easier.

Ken.

The op doesn't mention a prenup but in saying that prenups are not worth the paper their written on in Ireland.

bobbysands81

marble wrote: »

Hi all.
My marriage has broken down,as my wife doesn't feel she's happy anymore.we have 2 schoolgoing kids and we both work full-time.although she's the sole owner of the property,do I have to move out just because she wants me to?
It's not an ideal situation and if I could afford to move out I would,but I with the wage I'm on I can't afford to rent(we both live and work in Dublin)
I've searched for properties to rent,but literally couldn't afford the rent,and I'd also prefer be somewhat local for my children.
Anyone?

Hey,

Sorry that this is happening to you.

You need legal advice to help you with the practicalities of what's happening.

You also might benefit from some support in what is most likely a very difficult time. Have you tried to see is there any way yourself and your wife can reconcile your differences and try and work things out? If this is not possible, or a potential reconciliation does not make you happy, then splitting up is a positive thing for all involved. Being miserable and unhappy will effect you, your wife and your kids far more in the long run than staying together and being miserable will.

Do you have good friends and family that can help and support you? Would you consider contacting a Counsellor to help put in place a plan to help you emotionally and physically through this?

Best of luck in whatever you do, I hope you find happiness.

intheclouds

rhabarbarum wrote: »

Well, If your wife is a sole owner of a property and your prenup says that whatever someone owns or buys stays with them, then I’d begin to pack my things. But really, get some legal advice. And try to stay as civil as possible. From my own experience, this makes things so much easier.

No prenup can override family law in Ireland.

OP - it is irrelevant that your wife owned the property before you were married, if you were married and lived in it together it is "the family home" under Irish Law.

Get proper legal advice.

marble

Thanks everyone.
As much as I don't want to,I think I'll just need to seek legal advice.