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Present for wedding abroad

  • 12-04-2016 8:55am
    #1
    snoopy29
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 176 ✭✭


    Quick question, I've been invited to a wedding in Slovenia in June for the wedding of my husband's friend. They have said they dont want presents because of the cost of travelling etc. Im wondering should we buy some sort of token gift though to give before we all fly out? The guy is a childhood friend of my husband's but they ont see each other that regularly.

    Any thoughts?


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  • #2
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,843 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    I think a token is always a nice idea if you can afford it, but I don't think you have to. Alternatively, you could always get them a voucher for something back in Ireland in a few months, like if you want to give something but can't afford all the expense at once.

    We're 2 weddings abroad this year and its not cheap! One invite for a wedding abroad has already arrived and there was no mention of not wanting gifts. The other one is in 6 weeks and we've not got the official invite, just a save the date, but again no mention of not wanting gifts.


  • #3
    snoopy29
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 176 ✭✭snoopy29


    I've had no either, I dont think they are sending any but they did say no presents to us. I think a token would be nice, maybe just a voucher.


  • #4
    xalot
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,096 ✭✭✭xalot


    SarahMollie wrote: »
    I think a token is always a nice idea if you can afford it, but I don't think you have to. Alternatively, you could always get them a voucher for something back in Ireland in a few months, like if you want to give something but can't afford all the expense at once.

    We're 2 weddings abroad this year and its not cheap! One invite for a wedding abroad has already arrived and there was no mention of not wanting gifts. The other one is in 6 weeks and we've not got the official invite, just a save the date, but again no mention of not wanting gifts.

    That's crazy, six weeks and still no official invite, flights will be obscene. Think you have to give people at least six months notice if you want them to travel.

    I agree that a personal token gift would be nice if you can afford it, maybe a restaurant voucher or a framed photo if you take a particularly nice photo of the Bride and Groom / wedding.


  • #5
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,843 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    xalot wrote: »
    That's crazy, six weeks and still no official invite, flights will be obscene. Think you have to give people at least six months notice if you want them to travel.

    I agree that a personal token gift would be nice if you can afford it, maybe a restaurant voucher or a framed photo if you take a particularly nice photo of the Bride and Groom / wedding.

    TBF we got the all the details with the save the date (they included a link to a website with all the info) so we have our travel booked already. But this thread just reminded me that we havent seen the official invite yet which is a bit slack!
    And yes, we're definitly invited, my BF is a groomsman, before anyone asks :P


  • #6
    snoopy29
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 176 ✭✭snoopy29


    Yep were the same but its in 10 weeks but we have our hotel booked a while ago, just not flights.


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  • #7
    Gatica
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,301 ✭✭✭Gatica


    If they have said no presents required than anything you give would be a bonus to them. It would be generous of you to give a token gift and I think personally that's what I would do.
    The restaurant voucher sounds like a great suggestion. It would be a pleasant surprise to them when they come back to reality.


  • #8
    ChampagnePop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 501 ✭✭✭ChampagnePop


    I've only been to weddings in the UK, and have always given UK size wedding gifts, which are about half of what's expected at an Irish wedding. I think if the couple was choosing to have it abroad I would probably factor that into what I would give.

    Also, I would consider a voucher for a restaurant a good wedding gift for any wedding, not a "token" gift


  • #9
    esforum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,420 ✭✭✭esforum


    I would consider a voucher a bad gift, its basically restricted cash

    It can work sometimes, a parent that you know wont spend the cash on themselves so you get a voucher for a spa day, etc but in general vouchers say "I wasnt bothered buying a present but didnt want you having the choice of how to spend cash".

    Alternatively some little presents can be a great idea if its a genuinely good idea and not a toaster. Generally I give cash when thats requested but for a close family member usually a nice present as well, something I know they will like.


  • #10
    esforum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,420 ✭✭✭esforum


    ChampagnePop wrote: »
    I've only been to weddings in the UK, and have always given UK size wedding gifts, which are about half of what's expected at an Irish wedding. I think if the couple was choosing to have it abroad I would probably factor that into what I would give.

    It depends, I think if you are asking people to travel abroad and get hotels, flights, etc you need to be a little less demanding present wise.

    When it comes to giving a gift based on local custom, some countries would be far more generous than Ireland so that could be a double whammy to you as the guest.


  • #11
    esforum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,420 ✭✭✭esforum


    SarahMollie wrote: »
    TBF we got the all the details with the save the date (they included a link to a website with all the info) so we have our travel booked already. But this thread just reminded me that we havent seen the official invite yet which is a bit slack!
    And yes, we're definitly invited, my BF is a groomsman, before anyone asks :P

    I cannot for the life of me understand a save the date and an official invitation when both contain the full wedding details.


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  • #12
    SarahMollie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,843 ✭✭✭SarahMollie


    esforum wrote: »
    I cannot for the life of me understand a save the date and an official invitation when both contain the full wedding details.

    Yeah I know, its a bit pointless at this point. The only real difference is that the invite had a section about RSVPing, and was obviously more fancy and formal etc (the Save the Date was a postcard).

    We did the the formal invite yesterday, its nice and whatnot, but its a bit unnecessary. If I were getting married, this is an area I would watch my costs because i don't think guests mind once all the info is there!


  • #13
    ChampagnePop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 501 ✭✭✭ChampagnePop


    esforum wrote: »
    I would consider a voucher a bad gift, its basically restricted cash

    It can work sometimes, a parent that you know wont spend the cash on themselves so you get a voucher for a spa day, etc but in general vouchers say "I wasnt bothered buying a present but didnt want you having the choice of how to spend cash".

    Alternatively some little presents can be a great idea if its a genuinely good idea and not a toaster. Generally I give cash when thats requested but for a close family member usually a nice present as well, something I know they will like.

    I 100% disagree with you in vouchers, a well thought out voucher for a restaurant or hotel in my opinion is a lovely gift.

    I received one to an excellent restaurant as an engagment present and loved it.


  • #14
    Gatica
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,301 ✭✭✭Gatica


    I may agree that as a main present, it's better to just give cash. However, considering the OP is being asked for nothing, then anything they give is a great present, because it's above and beyond what anyone would expect of them. A voucher is a nice way to congratulation a couple especially as throwing small amounts of money in a card usually sits odd with people. Obviously it would have to be somewhere that's local to the couple.


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